"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Should I respond?

brian123

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Met this girl a few weeks ago. Hung out with her a few times. She sent me alot of signals. She asked me to hang out etc....

I called her last week (tues night), left a funny message using an inside joke. I didn't hear back until this Saturday when she returned my call. She left a VM, playing along with my joke and then spoke about her week quickly, apologizing for not calling me back sooner (I know she is pretty swamped this week, mentioned it would be before for her).

Do i call her back after she took so long to respond to me? Or should I give her a call tommorow night and see how things are going? (She is currently out of town for a few weeks)

Thoughts? Thanks all.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I already know that you're going to get conflicting responses to your question,so just let me throw in my two cents,then I'll get out of the way.
I say no,don't call her,but there are some conditions.
You say that she's currently out of town,right? In that case,don't call.
If she away visiting someone,then just let her have her little vacation,her time away from her normal life in the town where she lives and not be bothered with things or people from her hometown.

If it's business related,and she told you about the trip,then I probably would give her a call,if you can do it at a time you know she won't be busy.

However,if you decide to wait until she comes back,then DO NOT call her on the same day she returns. In fact, I'd wait 3 or 4 days after.

Again,it's just my two pennies.
 

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I figured Id get some conflicting responses. She is currently away attending classes for the next couple of weeks. My only reason for not calling is A) She took so long to return my initial call

But I would like to call in order to "strike while its hot" If I wait until she gets back, then it will be a few more weeks from now. If i keep up the calls now, it probably won't seem so weird when I call to just catch up etc...
 

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to call or not to call

depends what you want out of her...if you feels good then just call her...humor goes along way, don't ask for date or anything serious..

beside you have other plates to spin...I say call her and leave it at that...

you can do anything you want..but act confident
 

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I think I am going to call tonight and just keep it light and funny and go along with a joke that we had running last week. I'm not going to ask her out or anything b/c we won't be in town over the next couple of weeks.

In fact, I think the night time I will be seeing her is at my cousin's wedding (where I am the best man). I figure that as long as I keep the conversation window open + am light and friendly I will make a further move at the wedding. I figure her guard will be down a bit b/c of the sappy women stuff, and I will be looking great in my tux.

Yes, I do have other plates, but this is my #1 plate.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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