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Should I respond to this POF answer?

pete101

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I been negging this stuck up HB on POF, she seems full of herself, hot netherless but asks all the usual BS questions tryna get me to qualify myself yet doesn't provide her info.. i.e. where do you live? i answer, asked her twice and she just ignores it. Conceited b1tch so I bust her balls a bit.

I get to the stage where I ask her 'so what else do you have going for you beside your looks and stellar career?'

she goes: didn't know I needed to sell myself to randoms on pof ha ha

she's obviously insulting me by calling me a random but I dont really know what to say in response, if i go c0cky and arrogant it'll just into a slinging match and me responding to this will just give her attention and validation.

any one got a good come back for this or should I just leave it?
 

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pete101 said:
I been negging this stuck up HB on POF, she seems full of herself, hot netherless but asks all the usual BS questions tryna get me to qualify myself yet doesn't provide her info.. i.e. where do you live? i answer, asked her twice and she just ignores it. Conceited b1tch so I bust her balls a bit.

I get to the stage where I ask her 'so what else do you have going for you beside your looks and stellar career?'

she goes: didn't know I needed to sell myself to randoms on pof ha ha

she's obviously insulting me by calling me a random but I dont really know what to say in response, if i go c0cky and arrogant it'll just into a slinging match and me responding to this will just give her attention and validation.

any one got a good come back for this or should I just leave it?

the woman obviously doesnt like you. you are annoying her. leave her alone.
 

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Personally I dont believe in negging as it is a lame mans game. I dont mind freindly teasing but putting someone down lacks class. Her response is rude and arrogant...so I just wouldn't respond and move on. If you cant get an online chick to meet you for a coffee or drink within 3 or 4 emails adios.
 

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window said:
Personally I dont believe in negging as it is a lame mans game. I dont mind freindly teasing but putting someone down lacks class. Her response is rude and arrogant...so I just wouldn't respond and move on. If you cant get an online chick to meet you for a coffee or drink within 3 or 4 emails adios.
I agree.

It's gotten to the point where "neg" is a part of common language. An ex once told me "Some guy negged me at the bar."

Once it's gotten to this point, it's time to just start talking like a regular grownup. If that's not good enough to get the woman, then it's her fault. Not yours.

As far as this particular woman, if you want to ask her out, then go ahead and do it. No point in going back and forth 20 emails, playing games. This isn't a playground.
 

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Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

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I've met 3 chics off thingy similar to pof last month, all within 2 week windows period, then I start drinking and hanging out with wrong people. But anyway, all 3 I asked for coffee within 5 minutes of our first convo, 2 I met same evening, and 1 I met the other day. With 1 I had a hot steamy sex in the back seat of my car, she had a loose vagina, definitely a slvt. 1 turned out to be a gold digger, and 1 LJBF'ed on 3rd date, I made her buy me lunch.

I have now forgotten how to do it anymore, I just spam them to go out drink coffee, and my neg involves asking them wtf they doing sitting home alone. Today I C&B with one. Turned out there were 3 of them there, and I called my friend to give them a call, since he's better on the phone. That slvt ****ed blocked me and ruined everything.
 

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I would go direct. At some point you have to cut the crap
 

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window said:
Personally I dont believe in negging as it is a lame mans game. I dont mind freindly teasing but putting someone down lacks class. Her response is rude and arrogant...so I just wouldn't respond and move on. If you cant get an online chick to meet you for a coffee or drink within 3 or 4 emails adios.

This is only an issue if you don't deliver negs correctly; meaning they will come off as an insult and make you seem rude.

However, a well placed neg, said correctly will dramatically increase your results with women esp those that are super hot or use to shooting chumps down.

Second issue is separate of the neg; its that whenever you chat over text compared to in person or over the phone, its always tough to judge the context of the words since there isn't any emotion/tone of voice attached to it.

The fact that she put a "haha" would normally indicate that she's being playful and firing right back at the OP.

I personally didn't interpret her reply as rude, I thought he should have upped the ante and see how she replies.






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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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