"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Should I respond to this POF answer?

pete101

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I been negging this stuck up HB on POF, she seems full of herself, hot netherless but asks all the usual BS questions tryna get me to qualify myself yet doesn't provide her info.. i.e. where do you live? i answer, asked her twice and she just ignores it. Conceited b1tch so I bust her balls a bit.

I get to the stage where I ask her 'so what else do you have going for you beside your looks and stellar career?'

she goes: didn't know I needed to sell myself to randoms on pof ha ha

she's obviously insulting me by calling me a random but I dont really know what to say in response, if i go c0cky and arrogant it'll just into a slinging match and me responding to this will just give her attention and validation.

any one got a good come back for this or should I just leave it?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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pete101 said:
I been negging this stuck up HB on POF, she seems full of herself, hot netherless but asks all the usual BS questions tryna get me to qualify myself yet doesn't provide her info.. i.e. where do you live? i answer, asked her twice and she just ignores it. Conceited b1tch so I bust her balls a bit.

I get to the stage where I ask her 'so what else do you have going for you beside your looks and stellar career?'

she goes: didn't know I needed to sell myself to randoms on pof ha ha

she's obviously insulting me by calling me a random but I dont really know what to say in response, if i go c0cky and arrogant it'll just into a slinging match and me responding to this will just give her attention and validation.

any one got a good come back for this or should I just leave it?

the woman obviously doesnt like you. you are annoying her. leave her alone.
 

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Personally I dont believe in negging as it is a lame mans game. I dont mind freindly teasing but putting someone down lacks class. Her response is rude and arrogant...so I just wouldn't respond and move on. If you cant get an online chick to meet you for a coffee or drink within 3 or 4 emails adios.
 

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window said:
Personally I dont believe in negging as it is a lame mans game. I dont mind freindly teasing but putting someone down lacks class. Her response is rude and arrogant...so I just wouldn't respond and move on. If you cant get an online chick to meet you for a coffee or drink within 3 or 4 emails adios.
I agree.

It's gotten to the point where "neg" is a part of common language. An ex once told me "Some guy negged me at the bar."

Once it's gotten to this point, it's time to just start talking like a regular grownup. If that's not good enough to get the woman, then it's her fault. Not yours.

As far as this particular woman, if you want to ask her out, then go ahead and do it. No point in going back and forth 20 emails, playing games. This isn't a playground.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I've met 3 chics off thingy similar to pof last month, all within 2 week windows period, then I start drinking and hanging out with wrong people. But anyway, all 3 I asked for coffee within 5 minutes of our first convo, 2 I met same evening, and 1 I met the other day. With 1 I had a hot steamy sex in the back seat of my car, she had a loose vagina, definitely a slvt. 1 turned out to be a gold digger, and 1 LJBF'ed on 3rd date, I made her buy me lunch.

I have now forgotten how to do it anymore, I just spam them to go out drink coffee, and my neg involves asking them wtf they doing sitting home alone. Today I C&B with one. Turned out there were 3 of them there, and I called my friend to give them a call, since he's better on the phone. That slvt ****ed blocked me and ruined everything.
 

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I would go direct. At some point you have to cut the crap
 

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window said:
Personally I dont believe in negging as it is a lame mans game. I dont mind freindly teasing but putting someone down lacks class. Her response is rude and arrogant...so I just wouldn't respond and move on. If you cant get an online chick to meet you for a coffee or drink within 3 or 4 emails adios.

This is only an issue if you don't deliver negs correctly; meaning they will come off as an insult and make you seem rude.

However, a well placed neg, said correctly will dramatically increase your results with women esp those that are super hot or use to shooting chumps down.

Second issue is separate of the neg; its that whenever you chat over text compared to in person or over the phone, its always tough to judge the context of the words since there isn't any emotion/tone of voice attached to it.

The fact that she put a "haha" would normally indicate that she's being playful and firing right back at the OP.

I personally didn't interpret her reply as rude, I thought he should have upped the ante and see how she replies.






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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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