"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Should I respond? I need to get back into the game.

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Hey!

Found this site by chance and I've never read much about how to talk to women cause most information on the net seems false but the advise on this site just felt right. So, before going to my question, since this is my first post I want to thank Allen Thompson for such great advise and the administrators for keeping this forum up and running. And also all the helpful people on this forum who take their time to give advise.

Now to my problem, I'm a good looking guy but I've got absolutely no game at all! Which will hopefully change from some guidance of Allen Thompson's front page articles, hehe. But I'm still at lost of how to respond to a girl I asked out without blowing it.

I met her briefly during a uni course where we had a lab together with some other guys, she was smiling and cheerful so I talked to her some but all in all, not so much interaction. Although she did brush up against me some during an assignment we had. So I added her on FB, waited till after we've had our exams (2-3 weeks) cause I was too swamped with work and sent her a this message; "Hey, what's up? Would you like to go out for a beer or something this weekend? :)" which led to the response a couple of days later (yesterday) reading "Hey, I have visitors this week. Maybe another time :)". I'm not really sure how to go about this, should I respond today? If so, how? Or should I wait and ask her out in a week or two again, instead?

I really need to get into the game again because the last and only girl I fell for (who I also wanted to be with more after sex, instead of my usual loss of interest) flaked on me a couple of times before moving away. And that was close to a year ago now.

Any advise would be greatly appreciated!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Jaforfan said:
...sent her a this message; "Hey, what's up? Would you like to go out for a beer or something this weekend? :)" which led to the response a couple of days later (yesterday) reading "Hey, I have visitors this week. Maybe another time"
If she took a couple of days to text you back then I think she is clearly not interested in you. Do you see this girl in class? Just ask her out in person then, or call her.

One time a woman took three days to respond to my text - her number was promptly deleted and I haven't spoken to her since.
 

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Totally not interested in you. "Maybe another time" with a smiley after it? Kiss of death.

Read more, if you think you have a chance w that chick after that interaction, you gots years of learning ahead.
 

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Uncharted said:
If she took a couple of days to text you back then I think she is clearly not interested in you. Do you see this girl in class? Just ask her out in person then, or call her.

One time a woman took three days to respond to my text - her number was promptly deleted and I haven't spoken to her since.
Nah, it was on Facebook. Didn't have her number so had to add her if I wanted to contact her. I don't really know if she checks her Facebook frequently so that's why I'm not sure. As to the class question, I only met her 2 days (one of them really briefly) since I didn't go to any classes (except those 2 days which were obligatory) and we only shared one course. So I never meet her in person either hehe. She's an exchange student and will have visitors over this week (or so she said).

But yeah, she didn't suggest any other day to meet so I'm not expecting anything, just want to keep it open and maybe try one more time before I call it.

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Zarky said:
Totally not interested in you. "Maybe another time" with a smiley after it? Kiss of death.

Read more, if you think you have a chance w that chick after that interaction, you gots years of learning ahead.

Zion said:
Go read the DJ Bible. As far as your girl goes , it's a dead end. She's not interested.
Haha, yeah, fair enough. That was what I thought, just wanted to check with you guys if it was definite.

Gonna start reading up more cause as you said, I'm way too inexperienced. And rely on my drunk self to pull girls more than I should. Hell, that's the only time I get chicks unless they contact me because of my looks.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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