Should i remind her about her date?

[Brahtha]

This girl I recently met agreed to go out on a date with me. I asked her the week before and agreed to go out sometime between the next Thurs/Fri. Following week, Monday afternoon she texts that she's free after work on Thursday. I told her I'd pick her up after work around 6pm. She told me okay but remind her.

I read a thread somewhere in the forum saying you shouldn't remind a girl. Does that apply if she asks you to, or you shouldn't regardless she asked or not?

 

[Mr Wright]

If she said pick her up from work at 6pm. Text her and tell her you're going to be like 15 minutes late or something, that way if shes forgotten she will remember and if shes backing out, she'll let you know and save you wasting your time.

 

[whatwg]

If she said pick her up from work at 6pm. Text her and tell her you're going to be like 15 minutes late or something, that way if shes forgotten she will remember and if shes backing out, she'll let you know and save you wasting your time.

That's a good one. I'll remember that.

 

[May_Day]

Don't set up dates that far in advance. Girls don't forget the dates with guys that they like.

 

[J Roc]

Don't set up dates that far in advance. Girls don't forget the dates with guys that they like.

Exactly. A girl would never forget that she had a date with Channing Tatum on Thursday at 6pm. She would be looking forward to it all week long!

 

[pinkfl]

I don't think reminding her should be necessary...if I was asked out on a date by a cool guy I wouldn't forget it.

 

[BeDJ]

Yes.

Most guys think that confirming the day of the date is an AFC move and gives her the opportunity to flake. It's really not. If a chick is going to flake out on you, she will do it, regardless. No wasting time, no jedi mind tricks,

Just making sure our plans haven't changed.

 

[VladPatton]

Yes confirm it, but use the "I'll be 15 mins late trick" as Mr. Wright pointed above. Best trick to make sure shıt's still down.

 

[Montague_Leach]

You don't need to remind a girl who is hot for you.

 

[BeDJ]

The problem with the 15 minute trick is she feels it's okay to be late on this date and future dates. Why not be upfront? If that throws her off, then she wasn't worth it in the first place.

 

[Jitterbug]

You're not her PA. If she needs a reminder, tell her she can put it in Google Calendar which can send her a TXT before the date.

When dealing with spoilt entitled Western women, remember that they will always assume the frame of the Prize / Boss / Royalty - whatever you want to call it - while you are automatically treated as the flunky who should be lucky her royal highness is giving you some of her precious time. You must sniff this out asap and reverse it: make her submit to your frame.

 

[PapiChulo]

I confirm whenever there's a high probability of flaking.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Im way too old and too annoyed from bvllsh1t and tricks, I call her before leaving home wheter is 10min or half an hour.

If she is gonna flake she will very likely not pick up the phone, if she picks it up I simply have a small chat, an interested girl will not be turned off from a call and un uninterested girl is gonna be a pain in the ass no matter how good you "game her".

If she doesnt pick up the phone I dont even bother to leave home, and if she calls me later asking where I am I simply tell her the truth in the most unapologetic cold way.

 

[Jitterbug]

I find that interested girls always remind me of the date and ask me for a confirmation, whereas ones with low interest and high flaking chance will ask me to do it.

 

[Brahtha]

I know I'm already getting the she's not interested vibe. Just for closure's sake could you guys read this thread. It's how we met and how I perceive things to be changing. If there's any indication for you guys that things are changing, tell me.

 

[Brahtha]

Here's the story. http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=204840