"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Should I Pursue Her?

DJ McBuster

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I know this girl at my work. We are sorta becoming friends but she knows I am intrested in her. She is attracted to me and her friends think I am hot too. The problem lies in her former marriage. She has been living with her female friend for the last month and seeing nobody. She has a kid and no car and is not ready to be in a relationship right now. And I don't know if we are right for each other? I like her looks and her personality but she is so shy and uncomfortable around me. But right know I am just trying to be her friend and to gain her trust when she is around me, but she has so much baggage and there is no guarantee that she would be any diffrent from one of my other girlfriends? So what do you guys think, she is a hot babe #9, I like her, but she does have issues and I don't think I could just use her like other woman? And no I'm not putting her on a pedestal and this is not oneitis, it's just meeting a woman you admire beyond a physical level? So please let me know what you think?

DJ McBuster
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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The Bad Ass Canadian

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I would definietly avoid getting with a girl from work (especially one who appears to be pretty volatile). If she is as unstable as you say, I'd turn around and walk away. Befriend her and flirt with her but don't cross the line.

If things get sour, it'll make work a rather uncomfortable experience.

If you think you can handle it, though, you can use my motto and say "fvck it"... go for it.

Instead of gently creeping into it, why not give her some excitment and sweep her off her feet? I imagine she just needs a thrill in her life after going through a marriage breakup and all that. Just don't get too involved. Keep it light and fun.
 
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