"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Should I pull back?

Glassguy

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I've been seeing this chick for 2 months. She has been very touchy feely since date #2 and shows lots of interest. I normally always reciprocate only since she always lays it out there.
She is on vacation with her immediate family this week and a week ago she said "I'm going to miss you" when I'm on vacation. I played it off a little bit without actually saying that I would miss her too. She seemed a little weird after that and later said that she was concerned that I didn't come back with me saying that I would miss her too.


I'm also spinning 3 other plates so this vacation week is perfect for that. However, I've noticed that she hasn't been as active initiating texts/calls like she was. I understand she is in vacation, but even when I've talked to her on the phone she is always having side conversations with the people around her and just acts sidetracked. Today I just about said "hey I'm at work, so if you arent busy I'll talk to you but if you're busy with convos with everyone around you call me later. It's not fun getting interrupted by people who you are going to be around the rest of the week". Instead I just told her that she seemed busy and to call me later if she got free.

I'm a little cold with women to begin with and I don't get all emotional like the average guy. Reason is my divorce and recent breakup several months ago with a fiancé.. Sometimes good women think I'm just too cold hearted but I'm only very cautious.

Should I just pull back and start letting her initiate everything like I did in the beginning with this chick? I do think I have been initiating probably 50% over the past few weeks and before I was maybe 25%.

Thanks for the help brothers!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I would, if were you. It's a good opportunity to get some perspective. I like to use those times to think and reflect. I usually have breakthroughs, during those times, which help to strengthen my center.
 
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