Should I play hero?

[The LadyKiller]

I work in a company full of fellow 20-somethings. Due to various circumstances (setting, hours, relocation etc.), our friends tend to be with other people within the company.

A few months ago, our company hired a group of temps. As they began working alongside us, I befriended some of them, including two chill, down-to-earth girls. While I routinely hang out with my group of bros, the two girls would invite me out with them as well. Fun times all around. In fact, one of the girls has been showing some IOI's towards me. However...

...the temps contracts run out in three weeks. And of course, the girl showing the IOI's will be among the many who will be let go - unless she can sign on with another department at the company. While she seemed to do good work, it was simply a numbers game, as our company did not hire a majority of the temps. Meanwhile, the other girl was hired, so at least one of the two will remain.

Predictably, the girl who was kept on is saddened that all of her temp friends, especially her best friend (IOI girl), appear to be goners. She explained all of this to me today and asked if there is any way that I can help save IOI girl's job. I have no pull - I can't hire and can't make personnel decisions. But, because I've been at the company for a little while, I do have some friends in other departments who could likely help set up interviews and get things moving. I wisely did not disclose this information.

The question is straightforward: should I play hero? On one hand, I have made posts here somewhat recently about my turbulent relationship with girls I know in the area due to various reasons, but the girl who was hired and IOI girl seem to think I'm the man. If I work my connections and IOI girl eventually gets hired in a different department, I would unquestionably be the hero. Who knows where that would lead down the road. On the other hand, I have only known these people a few months. Many peers have come and gone in the past, and I've ended up just fine. If IOI girl turns into an attention wh*re when looking for help, I shut down the entire operation. And even if I did try to help, there's a chance IOI girl still wouldn't get the job.

Thoughts? This wouldn't hurt nor help my standing with the company either way. At the same time, if I'm helping out with something, my name is associated and I have to believe that what I'm doing is the right decision.

TL: DR - Girl I have hung out with and who has shown interest in me is about to lose her job in a few weeks unless she signs on elsewhere in the company. Is it worth trying to help?

 

[skinnyguy]

Is she guaranteed to fvck your brains out if she gets the job?

 

[The LadyKiller]

Is she guaranteed to fvck your brains out if she gets the job?

See this is the sticking point. Very possibly yes. But, there's a chance the answer is no too. I can't say with total conviction.

I have to decide if it's worth it. She's a HB I'm friendly with and know pretty well. I've partied with her before, so it's not like we met last week. At the same time, she one of those girls who likes attention. I don't want to help her stay at the company only to be forgotten weeks later (not that I think this would happen, but things like that enter my mind).

Right now I could go either way.

 

[RangerMIke]

Do what you want to do. Nothing wrong with helping a friend, just don't expect anything.

 

[Sobliminal]

I feel like you're looking at this one all the wrong way. You're setting long term goals for something that should be entirely shorthand... She only works there for 2 more weeks so your thought is to try and pull some strings and get her a job there in hopes she reciprocates with sex? That's an AFC move at it's core. You need to look at this differently you have two weeks; so what are you going to do within that limited time frame to get her hoppin' on your ****?

 

[Tenacity]

Lady Killer,

Long answer short, NO. For one, take it from me, do not combine professional and personal relationships unless you have to. When I say "have to," it should be something to where the chemistry is so strong it can't be denied. If something goes sour with the relationship it could hurt your performance and standing with the company.

This girl in particular that's showing you "high interest" and who "thinks you are the man" might just be playing office politics with you. It's where you find someone in the company and befriend them, to use them to help move your way up within the company.

Now, it's worth it to play the politics if the politics directly helps you professionally, it's stupid to play the politics if you get no direct professional benefit out of it.

From your explanation, you get nothing out of this but potentially a piece of a.ss, which is a very lame explanation for doing this. If you want a piece of a.ss, do that on your personal time, not within your professional network. I'm telling you, most of the time it doesn't end well.

 

[Bokanovsky]

See this is the sticking point. Very possibly yes. But, there's a chance the answer is no too. I can't say with total conviction

She needs to fvck your brains out before you intervene. Think of it as a deposit.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Lady Killer,

Long answer short, NO. For one, take it from me, do not combine professional and personal relationships unless you have to. When I say "have to," it should be something to where the chemistry is so strong it can't be denied. If something goes sour with the relationship it could hurt your performance and standing with the company.

This girl in particular that's showing you "high interest" and who "thinks you are the man" might just be playing office politics with you. It's where you find someone in the company and befriend them, to use them to help move your way up within the company.

Now, it's worth it to play the politics if the politics directly helps you professionally, it's stupid to play the politics if you get no direct professional benefit out of it.

From your explanation, you get nothing out of this but potentially a piece of a.ss, which is a very lame explanation for doing this. If you want a piece of a.ss, do that on your personal time, not within your professional network. I'm telling you, most of the time it doesn't end well.

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OP, well, is she a good worker? Does she deserve a job in another department? Or would you just be doing this in the hopes of keeping some potential pu$$y around?

If it's just because she has a nice rack and you'd like to feel it, then, like has been alluded to already, it's as beta of a move as it gets. If this chick knows that her only means of getting hired are her skills in the arts of being flirty, then once you do try to get her hired, she will see you as a beta simp chump-----> Easily manipulated by the batting of her eye lashes.

Not to mention, you putting your a$$ on the line for this chick, who may or may not produce. Is it worth using up connections, or personal favors, for her?

I wouldn't do it, for many reasons. Let someone else be a good friend and help her get hired.

 

[The LadyKiller]

Thanks for the responses, you guys help put it in perspective. While HB and I get along and maybe she feels a certain way, it isn't worth it. No, it would probably not affect my job standing or anything of the sort, but I don't feel she is worth using up my favors for.

 

[Zion]

If you wanna play the hero just because you wanna fvck her, then no.

 

[DragonBlood]

Do what you want to do. Nothing wrong with helping a friend, just don't expect anything.

Be the hero.


But not for the clingy entrapment reasons you are giving because that is indeed weak.


She might be playing games but who really cares. If having this women around boosts your positive state of mind and she introduces you to other women and new social circles, I can only see her as an asset to your life.


I wouldnt give a rats ass about 'IOIs' or trying to manipulate the situation into a long con sex. Actions > words. Use her as social proof whenever you go out and to increase your confidence and mood in finding women OUTSIDE of work.

The only danger I see here is how quickly (2 months) you are jumping in to solve this girls problems and how you can only see your standing in the company as a way to bed her. It doesnt say alot for your own esteem and personal belief in being able to independently bring sex into your life.

 

[Mike32ct]

Stay out of it. You will only get credit if you tell these girls that you pulled strings to get her hired. But once you do that, you have broken confidentiality with your hiring friends in the other department and started a trail of juicy gossip that will hurt you, this girl, and your friends in the other department.

If you must help, the ONLY way to pull strings for someone who is genuinely a great worker is to recommend them quietly and never tell anyone else about it. You won't get sex or BJ, but you'll get some good karma.

 

[Alvafe]

I will go with no too.

problem is if she not work well after you pulled strings and asked around for her get hired, it will get you also in a bad place asking for bad people to join your work, even worse if you bang her and people know you 2 are doing it, your rep will get a hit, also you need to consider why she is not getting hired? even if the bussiness are full in number if she was such a good worker they would keep her with is not the case, also consider her friend is just asking you because she knows you have a thing for her friend?

its all things to consider, I wouldn't put mine in the line unless I was sure she was a really good on what she is doing.

but since you never mentioned it I don't think she is