Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Should I persue a relationship with this girl?

Viper

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Hi, I met this girl while I was at band camp and she definitely seems to have something for me. She always compliments me, always says 'hi' to me when I pass by, she might just be being friendly, but there's a good chance she's interested in a friendship, if nothing more. She compliments me on the littlelist things too, I mean heck, I impressed her, without even knowing I impressed her.
[I'm sitting alone during our water break during marching band]
Jennifer: Hey, Mike, I thought that was pretty amazing how you memorized the whole song and didn't even need to look at the notes.(She didn't say this exactly, but she said something along the lines of this.)
Me a little nervous: Uh... well, only that song. It was pretty good considering a couple days ago, I couldn't even play the song looking at the notes.
[Thinking that the conversation was over, I turn my back and go get some water]
[She then taps me on my shoulders and continues talking to me]
The girl is a senior, a little bit shorter than me, average looks and from what I've seen, she seems to be very confident about herself. Back to the matter at hand, do you guys think I should persue a relationship with this girl?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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immrtlwun

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It's up to you. We can't tell you who you can and can't date. But I will tell you not to go out with her if you're not interested. I once dated a girl that I wasn't really into, but she was highly interested in me. There wasn't like a huge drama, but she was crushed when I broke up with her. To make a long story short, we no longer talk to each other.

Do what you feel is right and good luck.
 

Big Eee Zee

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band camp? seriously...

well, good luck. Is she a flutist? <g>





you all know that movie? with the flutist? And she used her flute to...you know? It was a funny movie, but I foget the name of it. Good story.
 

immrtlwun

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It's American Pie.
 

Big Eee Zee

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duh.

I was making a joke by typing a long, rambling story about it. It was supposed to be funny. Oh well, I'm only functioning on 4 hours sleep, lay off me.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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dannowillbookem

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american pie. lol.

haha man u sound like a beginnerrrr. read the bible.

and if she looks good, personality good and you are looking for a relationship than go.
 

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Do you like her? If so, then you should talk to her about it. I believe she's giving you signs that she's interested in you but doesn't want to do the first move (telling you she likes you). Alot of girls wait for the guy to do the first move.
 

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To be blunt, i smell newbie. You sound like you may be on the right track, but you need to learn alot more man. Hit up the bible, learn the shyt, get a hot babe, not some average girl.
 
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