"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Should I persue a relationship with this girl?

Viper

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Hi, I met this girl while I was at band camp and she definitely seems to have something for me. She always compliments me, always says 'hi' to me when I pass by, she might just be being friendly, but there's a good chance she's interested in a friendship, if nothing more. She compliments me on the littlelist things too, I mean heck, I impressed her, without even knowing I impressed her.
[I'm sitting alone during our water break during marching band]
Jennifer: Hey, Mike, I thought that was pretty amazing how you memorized the whole song and didn't even need to look at the notes.(She didn't say this exactly, but she said something along the lines of this.)
Me a little nervous: Uh... well, only that song. It was pretty good considering a couple days ago, I couldn't even play the song looking at the notes.
[Thinking that the conversation was over, I turn my back and go get some water]
[She then taps me on my shoulders and continues talking to me]
The girl is a senior, a little bit shorter than me, average looks and from what I've seen, she seems to be very confident about herself. Back to the matter at hand, do you guys think I should persue a relationship with this girl?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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immrtlwun

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It's up to you. We can't tell you who you can and can't date. But I will tell you not to go out with her if you're not interested. I once dated a girl that I wasn't really into, but she was highly interested in me. There wasn't like a huge drama, but she was crushed when I broke up with her. To make a long story short, we no longer talk to each other.

Do what you feel is right and good luck.
 

Big Eee Zee

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band camp? seriously...

well, good luck. Is she a flutist? <g>





you all know that movie? with the flutist? And she used her flute to...you know? It was a funny movie, but I foget the name of it. Good story.
 

immrtlwun

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It's American Pie.
 

Big Eee Zee

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duh.

I was making a joke by typing a long, rambling story about it. It was supposed to be funny. Oh well, I'm only functioning on 4 hours sleep, lay off me.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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dannowillbookem

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american pie. lol.

haha man u sound like a beginnerrrr. read the bible.

and if she looks good, personality good and you are looking for a relationship than go.
 

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Do you like her? If so, then you should talk to her about it. I believe she's giving you signs that she's interested in you but doesn't want to do the first move (telling you she likes you). Alot of girls wait for the guy to do the first move.
 

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To be blunt, i smell newbie. You sound like you may be on the right track, but you need to learn alot more man. Hit up the bible, learn the shyt, get a hot babe, not some average girl.
 
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