"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Should I not worry about calories?

bud_2005

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I'm 5'8 and I weigh 200 lbs. I have a belly on me. Well I just started lifting and eating good. My main goal is to lose weight but I also want to gain quite a bit of muscle. I guess the body style I'm looking for is like a Brad Pitt in Fight Club or Ryan Reynolds in Blade 3. Anyways will the weight come off even though I do little or no cardio as long as I lift hard? Should I just eat as much as I want as long as it comes from healthy sources?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Shiftkey

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Choose your focus. If you do it right, you can gain muscle and lose fat at the same time, but that's not easy. It's far simplier to choose either losing fat or gaining muscle and sticking to it until you reach your goal. Simple diets are less likely to fail.

In your situation I'd probably be more inclined to lose fat. Keep lifting, but include 30-60 minutes of cardio 3 or 4 days a week. Reduce your calories a little, but not to the point where you ever feel hungry.
 

Sean O

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I guess the body style I'm looking for is like a Brad Pitt in Fight Club or Ryan Reynolds in Blade 3.
It's good that you have ambition, but don't be disappointed if you don't achieve this goal.

Anyways will the weight come off even though I do little or no cardio as long as I lift hard? Should I just eat as much as I want as long as it comes from healthy sources?
Well, don't just "eat as much as you want". That's probably how you came to weigh 200lbs, yeah? If you want to lose weight the proper way, you need to put yourself in a slight calorie deficit (spelling?). Diesel's Guide to Cutting should help you find some answers.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Search the forum for Deisel's cutting guide.
 
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