Should I next a girl or keep spinning if I see no future with her

[linsanity94]

Is it worth keep spinning a plate if you know that that girl is not long term relationship material. She has red flags that I wouldn't want to have in a LTR but she is quite fun to hang out with. Should I just next her or keep dating her. I feel if I continue to date her I might start to fall for her, which I don't think is a wise choice.

Let me know your thoughts thanks

 

[Yewki]

I feel if I continue to date her I might start to fall for her, which I don't think is a wise choice.

So in other words, you've already started to fall for her.

Don't officially end anything just put her on the back burner until you find other options (i.e. better options) then come back and resume spinning her as a plate.

 

[Desdinova]

It really depends on what you want out of it. If you can keep her at a distance and continue fvcking her, keep her around. If you're after a LTR, dump her immediately and look for something better.

I personally don't like the stress of dealing with extra bull5hit, and I don't like wasting my time with garbage.

 

[CMNILS87]

what are the red flags? If you seriously don't see her as a LTR, keep her as a FB if you want. if not cut the cord

 

[linsanity94]

what are the red flags? If you seriously don't see her as a LTR, keep her as a FB if you want. if not cut the cord

Red flags are partying and drug use
Im in college and I do these things but I wouldnt want my LTR GF to be in this scene. Im okay with just casually dating ppl with these qualities.
So you think just a secondary plate then?

 

[CMNILS87]

Red flags are partying and drug use
Im in college and I do these things but I wouldnt want my LTR GF to be in this scene. Im okay with just casually dating ppl with these qualities.
So you think just a secondary plate then?

Guy.... Like attracts like. You can't have your cake and eat it too. If you smoke ganja and drink you're gonna attract a crowd like that and women like that. Your only move is to remove yourself from this scene and find a different social crowd. You can't expect to party hard and do occasional drugs and then little miss "goody two shoes" is gonna magically appear and hang around a drug user/hard partier.

1. Find a new crowd
2. Stop doing drugs
3. Fwb the chick

 

[Reykhel]

Is it worth keep spinning a plate if you know that that girl is not long term relationship material. She has red flags that I wouldn't want to have in a LTR but she is quite fun to hang out with. Should I just next her or keep dating her. I feel if I continue to date her I might start to fall for her, which I don't think is a wise choice.

Let me know your thoughts thanks

Fvck sake.

Why are you looking for a LTR is the more important question.

You're still in college, right? WTF do you want the hassle of a LTR?

Enjoy your time in college and work on DEVELOPING YOU.

Sexual Market Value is everything and it's what you should be giving more thought to.

Enjoy this girl as one of many. Seriously, SPIN PLATES AND YOU WILL NOT FALL FOR HER!!!!

Please keep yourself out of a LTR as it will slow your personal progress down.

Get another two SLUTS. yes sluts, and enjoy them for the sluts that they are........

Options means that you don't have enough time to be thinking about one girl....

Remember these girls will come and go.....you and your future and your career and your cash is where it's at....

 

[linsanity94]

Fvck sake.

Why are you looking for a LTR is the more important question.

You're still in college, right? WTF do you want the hassle of a LTR?

Enjoy your time in college and work on DEVELOPING YOU.

Sexual Market Value is everything and it's what you should be giving more thought to.

Enjoy this girl as one of many. Seriously, SPIN PLATES AND YOU WILL NOT FALL FOR HER!!!!

Please keep yourself out of a LTR as it will slow your personal progress down.

Get another two SLUTS. yes sluts, and enjoy them for the sluts that they are........

Options means that you don't have enough time to be thinking about one girl....

Remember these girls will come and go.....you and your future and your career and your cash is where it's at....

Great advice I know my Sexual market value peaks in my 30s so I should just stay single until then and learn and better myself.

 

[MrWood]

My SMV peaked at 48y, get your head up son.

 

[Reykhel]

Great advice I know my Sexual market value peaks in my 30s so I should just stay single until then and learn and better myself.

Don't worry about ****e like that.

Best thing you could do is make your life your priority and making dating and women
a fun pass time. This is the Frame that you want.

Women are like a hobby. You don't have to worry about ****e like "my smv peaks at....."
Find balance always. The balance needs to be always in your favor.

Look at the divorce rates. Don't let it scare you. Let it empower you. Be smart that's all.

Put everything into you and keep women as a side dish. Always

 

[linsanity94]

Don't worry about ****e like that.

Best thing you could do is make your life your priority and making dating and women
a fun pass time. This is the Frame that you want.

Women are like a hobby. You don't have to worry about ****e like "my smv peaks at....."
Find balance always. The balance needs to be always in your favor.

Look at the divorce rates. Don't let it scare you. Let it empower you. Be smart that's all.

Put everything into you and keep women as a side dish. Always

This is solid advice. I'll make sure to always put myself and my life first.

 

[yungballa]

If you're looking for a lover to stay by your side for a long time, I think you should pay attention to red flags and abort ship.

But if you're just looking for a quick fvck toy, who the fvck cares about red flags. I mean, you're not crushing on her or anything, right? She's not your girlfriend or owes any loyalty to you, right? So in that case, I don't think what she does matters. If you notice red flags but you're not aiming for an LTR, but a quick pump and dump; disregard those red flags and keep moving forward.

BUT, if you want a SUCCESFUL LTR, drop the girls who have red flags ASAP. I guarantee you it wont work out. Cuz with those red flags, those are the ways she will act during the relationship.

You're wasting your time with a girl you know you have no chance with. I prefer to go after girls who I know have medium-high interest in me. I don't bother with girls who have low interest in me. It's just a waste of time to me. That's just me, though. I prefer to spend my time wisely with girls who actually like me.

 

[70th Win]

You're looking for a LTR, meaning a quality girl you can get serious with, and you have this girl but she isn't meeting your expectations so she isn't right for the job. She isn't what you want, but you tell yourself you'll keep her as a ****buddy while you spin other plates. But you don't have any other plates to spin, which is why you don't want to put this one down. You don't want to lose your only plate because then you won't have anyone and you'll feel lonely. That's not spinning plates, that's developing a case of oneitis.

A girl doesn't need to be LTR material to be a plate, but if you've already decided she's not worth your time and you're concerned you'll develop feelings for her it's best to dismiss her and move on before it gets worse. Honestly i'd rather have no plates than be with a girl out of desperation.