So I went out with a big group of friends last Saturday. I met a girl in the group and we hit it off. We ended up having lots of drinks. She goes home to take care of our mutual friend who is a female. She gets my number from our mutual friend. I get home from the bar and get a text from this girl. She said hey it was great hanging out with you, i got your number from sarah. hope you made it home ok. I told her I did and it was great hanging out with her too. I wait and call her on Tuesday of last week. She didn't aswer, and I didn't leave her a message. So the next day I sent her a text saying we should get drinks sometime soon and also said how fun it was hanging out. She agreed and told me to call her when I got back in town after Xmas. So I called her last night. Left her a message. And still no response.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Should I move on?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Don't call her again. The balls in her court now so you can wait and see what she does.
Don't get your hopes up, spin some plates and keep busy. Try thinking of something else to keep your mind off her.
It could also be a sh!t test, meaning shes seeing how desperate you are to call her. Anyway keep in mind that shes losing out if she doesn't call you. :rockon:
Don't get your hopes up, spin some plates and keep busy. Try thinking of something else to keep your mind off her.
It could also be a sh!t test, meaning shes seeing how desperate you are to call her. Anyway keep in mind that shes losing out if she doesn't call you. :rockon:
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slaog said:Don't call her again. The balls in her court now so you can wait and see what she does.
I disagree here to a certain extent. He definitely shouldn't call again within the next few days at all. But nothing wrong with calling again in a week or so. Especially since this girl hasn't lost any interest in him, its more likely that she's busy with Christmas etc. Also i know a lot of guys will hate on me for saying this because i use to be against it as well, but most younger chicks 18-25 prefer to text rather than talk on the phone. So here's the thing, the next time you contact her, don't ask her to hang out right away. . If she answers shoot the $hit and judge her tone of voice, if its positive then set something up, if not then take it as a sure sign of low interest......
It could also be a sh!t test, meaning shes seeing how desperate you are to call her. Anyway keep in mind that shes losing out if she doesn't call you. :rockon:
Doubt its a $hit test although I do know quite a few females who never answer their phone when the give their number out even to a guy they like. If he calls again, then they will answer/call back and be down to hang out, female DJ rule perhaps.
Bottom line; Slaog has a good point. Don't let this chick run your next few days, have a "ehhh whatever" attitude about it and you'll be much more successful in your nightly pick ups. I also agree about going out and meeting more girls..... when you fill up the inventory, everyone wants your product.
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I don't think i'm going to call her again. Like I said before, this is the second time I have called within a week and have not received a call back. It just doesn't make sense that she would respond to my texts and tell me to call her so we could grab a drink?
Pump your breaks. This one is done unless she initiates contact. It's that simple.althea78 said:I don't think i'm going to call her again. Like I said before, this is the second time I have called within a week and have not received a call back. It just doesn't make sense that she would respond to my texts and tell me to call her so we could grab a drink?
2 Strike's and she's out.
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althea78 said:So I get a text from this girl this morning saying she just got my message. She said "hope you're having a great day and I will get up with you later on." I can't get a read on this chic.
I presume she ment she'll 'catch up' with you later on. If I was in your position I'd do nothing and see if she gets back to you. What we do know is she didn't just get the message.
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