Should I make up stories?

[One on One]

I was basically a recluse for the first 20 years of my life. I rarely went out, spent too much time on the internet, etc. Don't think of some lone ranger out in Montanta, but think of a dorky AFC kid. Anyways, it shouldn't come as much of a surprise that I don't have many stories in my life. I am extremely inexperienced. I even don't have relatives that I ever see, which, if you think about it, limits your range of experiences even more because my immediate family was basically all I experienced life through.

So, no matter how much better I've gotten at conversations, I still don't always have interesting things to say. I am considering making up some personal stories about vacations, girls, or anything to make myself more interesting.

What prompted me to do this was an encounter at a restaurant tonight with a really cool dude. I was chilling with my friends after a ****ty night, smoking some hooka, and we found ourself in a conversation with two other guys.

One of these guys was a smooth-talking car salesman and he had quite an interesting life. In about 20 minutes of conversations, he was talking about all kinds of interesting stuff...girls he dated, wild trips to South Beach, etc. Honestly, this guy is like what you'd expect Senor Fingers to be if you met him! He was that guy who loved life and love to experience life. I found him very interesting and I realized that I really couldn't add much to a conversation with him.

I feel like I can converse on an abstract, theoretical level about anything, meaning I can talk about what I'd do in girl situations, what I'd do in any situation. But, this is no substitute for actual experience. This becomes obvious after talking to me long enough.

So, should I make up stories about my life to make it seem more interesting? I gotta be careful not to get myself buried too deeply in lies when my friends are around, but I wouldn't mind throwing in a few fake stories to people I meet. I could exaggerate and say I dated girls I actually just hung out with a few times.

What do you think?

 

[Mr. Latte]

Don't make up stories....MAKE stories. Good luck

 

[jakethasnake]

Dude, you've lost the fight already. Go and train some more. Lies?? *shakes his head*



What YOU need to do is to just go out. Not clubbing, but things like camping. Road trips. Go see some sights. Take up more hobbies like photography. Read up. You will meet people along your journey. Then you WILL have something to talk about. Just start small. You don't have to MESMERISE people with your "fantasitca personal tales" the very next day, so relax, and build up your life experience. You're so eager to be "perfect" that you're shooting yourself in the foot.

 

[One on One]

Your advice is great, but it's not as easy as it may seem. It's not easy to make stories when you have few friends to do stuff with.

 

[jakethasnake]

Then you've got to start even SMALLER. Make some female friends. Indeed, go for the LJBF. Say you're just looking to meet new people, no strings attached. Meet guys. There's no easy way to do this. You just DO it. Good luck.

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by Mr. Latte
Don't make up stories....MAKE stories. Good luck

Aw man...I was gonna SAY that! You jacked my line!

 

[Frank Zappa]

Lying will land you in rough spot. It always seems to come around and screw you in the end. The only person I embellished stories with is my ex and everything is true, just exaggerated. Making it well known that my life is great and I've moved on and don't think about her. I would exaggerate about the personalities of girls I was starting to date making them seem slightly better than her and such... You get the point, but you still have to be careful. Other than that, I have quit lying because it will only land you in a heap of trouble when people find out. If you decide to go ahead and make some stories up, there has to be an air of truth to it and make sure there is no other option such as me and my ex.

I was a geek in 9th and 10th grade of highschool, then I got my life together and got on prom court and stuff later all without lying. Like everyone else says, once you turn your life around, the stories will come and you will have plenty to tell that is true. It's never too late. Good luck.~Zappa

 

[iqqi]

dave, don't be a jack@ss. how would you feel about the guy you were talking about:

One of these guys was a smooth-talking car salesman and he had quite an interesting life. In about 20 minutes of conversations, he was talking about all kinds of interesting stuff...girls he dated, wild trips to South Beach, etc. Honestly, this guy is like what you'd expect Senor Fingers to be if you met him! He was that guy who loved life and love to experience life. I found him very interesting...

what would you think about this guy is he was a liar? if those were all lies? cuz that is what you are suggesting you become.

some people aren't story tellers. they can have the best stories, but they just aren't a story teller.

also, go out and make stories, like everyone here said. practise telling them here. some of the best story tellers with the most stories, they have so much to say because they find interest within the "mundane". start there.

 

[One on One]

Hmm, you guys have good points. I guess telling lies really isn't worth the trouble. I think one of my problems is that I find my life uninteresting when it is probably more interesting than I give it credit for. I just get bored easily. I feel that after I have experienced something, it is repetitive to then tell that story to someone else because it's just repeating something that happened. I can't seem to put myself in their shoes and imagine that they are hearing this story for the first time and might find it fascinating.

 

[carbani]

Man, you contradict yourself. You say that you get bored easily and you say that you spent most of your life in your room.

If you'd have a great experiences, you went camping in mountains, scubba dived, jumped from the plane, picked up a dosen of girls and not want to do all that again - then you could say that you get bored easily!

Go, do something real. Get into a random train, ride a few stations and go out sightseeing. Try to sell a rock to random people, bungee jump. Trust me - in one year you can get more experience that some people will gain in their lifetimes.

Even now I believe that you've got a great stories to tell other people. What was your greatest failure? What was your greatest success? Here and now - write about them.

 

[suavedave]

stories

With respect to chicks there is no problem to make yourself look special by making up stories.

 

[BobbDobbs]

Made up stories will screw up any LTR that may develop because you will eventually be revealed to be a liar.

If you are just going for ONS or STR, it doesn't really matter that much, unless word gets around to your targets that you are a BS'er.

If you can't talk about your past -- talk about your dreams for the future -- you can be as poetic as you want, since no one will make you sign a contract on fulfilling your dreams.

When that guy was talking about his past, you were impressed and drawn in because you could see it as a potential future.

Sameways with chicks -- your past doesn't mean anything to them directly, your future together though, that's what they'll envision as you charm their panties off.

As an example, I believe science fiction writer Ray Bradbury never flew in a plane because he was afraid the actual flight experience would ruin his poetic like anticipation of the feeling of flight.

Dreams are sometimes stronger than any past reality. Everyone wants to dream. Everyone's future is in front of them.

 

[elvis aint dead yet]

bump..



That car salesmen guy you spoke about, he seems exactly like you want to be.

Just remember, things that are too good to be true, usually are.


Most people's whose lives seem far fetched and amazing, usually are very good story tellers, charmers.

Maybe they've done some things, but the reality is, they are no different then you, they just know how to embellish their own lives better.

And some people just make stuff up all the time, they forget what they said.

Don't just make stuff up, you will get caught eventually, and then you'll be pissed off cause nobody wants to be around you anymore.

However, most people embellish their stories. Don't feel bad if you do.

Instead of "I CAUGHT A 2 inch fish"

They'll say "I CAUGHT a 2 FOOT fish"

It's reality. Just look at MTV and sports stars. Everybody has a sob story or a success story.

Nobody wants to hear about their real life..

Like "I left home at 15 with no money in my pocket"

And we all know the majority of these stories are BS.

If you never even went fishing, how can you say you caught a two foot fish?

So like others have said, For you to say "I CAUGHT a 2 FOOT FISH", you gotta go out and catch a 2 inch fish first.


Maybe you'll never catch a two foot fish, but at least you tried too.