Should I make more of an effort?

[todays_news]

I got with a girl on a night out the other night, it was the end of our year at uni and she'd been flirting with me massively all night, so it definitely wasnt a mistake and plus we've contacted eachother since.

The first issue is that she's living above me next year, whilst it doesnt bother me (as for now I'm just looking to charm a fvck buddy) I dont really want things to be awkward so that she expects more when we move in next year. I'm not necessarily ruling it out, but it just doesnt seem likely as I'm happy with myself at the moment.

We've agreed we'll go for a drink when we get back, but only on that wank****e facebook. In which she continued flirting with me.

I'm interested in her more than the other girls though, but since we've broken up for the summer I'm in a bit of a dilemma as whether or not to talk to her over the break. As we come back in September...

At the moment, I'm strongly leant on not contacting and then just picking up where we left off. I'm confident I am right, as I'm thinking with my head rather than my emotions. But this site has made me paranoid of appearing keen and AFC. As we all essentially know where that leads...

What do you guys think?

 

[Scars]

F-buddies fvck when they want it and it's convenient.

There should be very little emotion involved. Just enough to make her feel comfortable enough to fvck you. So there really is no need to talk to her all the time, or have an obligation to start conversation with her everyday. Don't talk to her like a girlfriend, talk to her like she is some girl you casually fvck. This is where most guys fail and destroy a perfectly good thing. What's better than sex with no strings attached? Granted girls fall into this same trap as well. But it's usually safe to say f-buddy relationships are always short lived anyway. One will develop feelings more than the other. Or one will find a boyfriend/girlfriend. Or one will just suddenly lose interest completely. It's inevitable. The goal is to keep it at a happy medium. Make sure she knows what she is getting into from the start. Sex with no commitment. You can't get jealous. And you have to monitor her comfortably and her interest in you and adjust to it accordingly. I think you are over analyzing it too much. If you want to get your d!ck wet, hit her up. If you run into her in person stop to talk to her and be friendly with her. Just don't go out of your way for her. Let it happen. She should do most of the initiating. If you haven't talked to her in a few weeks then hit her up. Tell her it's time to schedule an "appointment". Invite her to parties, or the bar for a drink. Keep it obvious that it's only physical and nothing more.

-Scars

 

[CRUSHER]

I've been in a situation where I was able to keep a girl's interest level throughout a summer of not seeing her. If anything summer will just build up tension and get her thinking more about you when you get back.

 

[todays_news]

Well thats confirmed what I already thought.. For now I'll just speak if spoken to, as opportunities will present themselves next year. Plus her best friend added me on facebook and was talking to me about her last night

Needless to say I kept it short and sweet without giving anything away.

Nice one guys.