Well, thats the question. Lately I've passed up a few opportunities with (mostly) slghtly overweight birds. around the 4 or 5 level I suppose, its been pretty much every week in fact that one of thems been trying to grind up against me on the dancefloor.
Otherwise though I've not been having any real success, the club I usually go to with my mates seems to be going downhill, the ratio of guys to girls has risen dramatically, (word has got out that it used to be a honey pot) and most of the girls that actually are there seem to be really stuck up with huge b*tch shields and not looking to pull at all unless the guy is brad pitt.
So I dunno, should I go there? With a couple I've thought, well if you actually made the effort to speak to me, and I liked you, then you might get lucky but of course they never do, and I don't really feel comfortable dancing with someone who I don't find attractive, to put some passion into it and be enthusiastic you need to find the person you're dancing with sexually attractive, at least thats what I find anyway. Similarly I don't feel like approaching people if I dont like the look of them, regardless of whether I think I'll get lucky.
One of my mates says "You need to slay a few dragons before you can go home with the princess" he might be right, but then he says alot of other things too. I suppose I'd rather my first shag was with someone who I wouldn't care if I made a fool of myself somehow, but I'd also rather be with someone who I actaully find attractive. I dunno maybe I'm too picky, I know guys that have been out with hot birds and also gone home with the dogs after substantial numbers of beers.
Maybe though, my reason for not dancing with these girls is I'm worried that If I've read the signals wrong its more embarrasing if I'm rejected and they dont wanna dance. If I think a hot bird wants to grind with me I usually go for it, because if she rejects me well its not too embarrasing, I think well shes stuck up and shes really hot so you can't blame me for trying, occasionally they do actually keep dancing, but they never seem interested in a convo or a kiss, after a song or two they move on. But with the not so pretty girls I'm thinking what If I try and she doesn't want to dance at all, people are really gonna think I'm a loser if the ugly girls dont want to dance with me.
Anyway I'm straying from the point, should I down a few more beers, swallow my pride and "take what I can get" or hold out for longer and try and finder a better club to go to plus keep trying on friends of friends I meet etc. (albeit at an incredibly low frequency) so that I find someone who meets my standards to score with and possibly start a relationship.
Just as an aside, I don't want to appear completely shallow, but I'm sure most guys will understand what I'm saying. My recent one-itis was a girl (with boyfriend unfortunately) who at first (and probably second and third) glance would have fallen straight into the category of girls that I've have been hesitant to dance/go home with. Thing is once I got to know her and we became good friends I noticed how she can be quite cute and stupidly let myself get a little obsessed with her. I guess the point is, my view at the moment is I dont want to sleep with a 5 or 6 unless I've got to know her a bit, like her and consequently find her more attractive. For a ons with someone I dont know and will probably never see again I'd rather they were a 7 or higher.
Otherwise though I've not been having any real success, the club I usually go to with my mates seems to be going downhill, the ratio of guys to girls has risen dramatically, (word has got out that it used to be a honey pot) and most of the girls that actually are there seem to be really stuck up with huge b*tch shields and not looking to pull at all unless the guy is brad pitt.
So I dunno, should I go there? With a couple I've thought, well if you actually made the effort to speak to me, and I liked you, then you might get lucky but of course they never do, and I don't really feel comfortable dancing with someone who I don't find attractive, to put some passion into it and be enthusiastic you need to find the person you're dancing with sexually attractive, at least thats what I find anyway. Similarly I don't feel like approaching people if I dont like the look of them, regardless of whether I think I'll get lucky.
One of my mates says "You need to slay a few dragons before you can go home with the princess" he might be right, but then he says alot of other things too. I suppose I'd rather my first shag was with someone who I wouldn't care if I made a fool of myself somehow, but I'd also rather be with someone who I actaully find attractive. I dunno maybe I'm too picky, I know guys that have been out with hot birds and also gone home with the dogs after substantial numbers of beers.
Maybe though, my reason for not dancing with these girls is I'm worried that If I've read the signals wrong its more embarrasing if I'm rejected and they dont wanna dance. If I think a hot bird wants to grind with me I usually go for it, because if she rejects me well its not too embarrasing, I think well shes stuck up and shes really hot so you can't blame me for trying, occasionally they do actually keep dancing, but they never seem interested in a convo or a kiss, after a song or two they move on. But with the not so pretty girls I'm thinking what If I try and she doesn't want to dance at all, people are really gonna think I'm a loser if the ugly girls dont want to dance with me.
Anyway I'm straying from the point, should I down a few more beers, swallow my pride and "take what I can get" or hold out for longer and try and finder a better club to go to plus keep trying on friends of friends I meet etc. (albeit at an incredibly low frequency) so that I find someone who meets my standards to score with and possibly start a relationship.
Just as an aside, I don't want to appear completely shallow, but I'm sure most guys will understand what I'm saying. My recent one-itis was a girl (with boyfriend unfortunately) who at first (and probably second and third) glance would have fallen straight into the category of girls that I've have been hesitant to dance/go home with. Thing is once I got to know her and we became good friends I noticed how she can be quite cute and stupidly let myself get a little obsessed with her. I guess the point is, my view at the moment is I dont want to sleep with a 5 or 6 unless I've got to know her a bit, like her and consequently find her more attractive. For a ons with someone I dont know and will probably never see again I'd rather they were a 7 or higher.