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Should I let her get away with saying this to me?

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There's this chick that I've been emailing back and forth with. I know she's interested in me, I'm not sure if I'm into her yet. But anyway she said something in the last email she sent that didn't sit quite right with me.

Basically I had clarified something that I had said in a previous email, and this is what she followed up with:

"It's just that when I first read what you wrote, it sounded kind of...um...nimrod-ish. I think it's because you said it so seriously, without so much as a smile to follow it. I'm glad we're on the same page now and that I no longer have to think of you as a nimrod. =)"

Now even though nimrod is one of the lamest putdowns ever, it's still a putdown. And even though she didn't actually call me a "nimrod", she's bordering on it and this seems like it could be a sh*t test.

What do you guys think and how would you respond?
 

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Fine, assume that I'm interested in her. Anything other than "next" would be helpful, thanks.
 
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Infamous J said:
Fine, assume that I'm interested in her. Anything other than "next" would be helpful, thanks.
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If you were interested in a girl, would you tell her "in the last email you sounded like a geek but I'm glad you are not a geek now".

NEXT her.
 
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Alright because "next" is used maybe a little too much here I'll post again. I still think you should NEXT her @ss before you get the one-itis bad:

A couple of things you could do:

1.) Neg her on using the word "nimrod." Almost clichaic response: "The 1980s called they want their lingo back." Or be creative and come up with your own. Be playful about it, etc.

I suggest this because she ended her email lightheartedly. ie: "I'm glad we're on the same page now."

2.) Play it off/Ignore it. Worrying yourself over it will only hurt your game.

THEN:

Stop being so serious.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Stop being so serious.[/QUOTE said:
bingo. tease her back. this is the email equiv of her slapping you on the arm and going "jerk". you do know that she doenst want to fight you in the parking lot when she hits you like that and that she doesnt mean you are a jerk....right?
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