"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Should I let her get away with saying this to me?

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There's this chick that I've been emailing back and forth with. I know she's interested in me, I'm not sure if I'm into her yet. But anyway she said something in the last email she sent that didn't sit quite right with me.

Basically I had clarified something that I had said in a previous email, and this is what she followed up with:

"It's just that when I first read what you wrote, it sounded kind of...um...nimrod-ish. I think it's because you said it so seriously, without so much as a smile to follow it. I'm glad we're on the same page now and that I no longer have to think of you as a nimrod. =)"

Now even though nimrod is one of the lamest putdowns ever, it's still a putdown. And even though she didn't actually call me a "nimrod", she's bordering on it and this seems like it could be a sh*t test.

What do you guys think and how would you respond?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Fine, assume that I'm interested in her. Anything other than "next" would be helpful, thanks.
 
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Infamous J said:
Fine, assume that I'm interested in her. Anything other than "next" would be helpful, thanks.
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If you were interested in a girl, would you tell her "in the last email you sounded like a geek but I'm glad you are not a geek now".

NEXT her.
 
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Alright because "next" is used maybe a little too much here I'll post again. I still think you should NEXT her @ss before you get the one-itis bad:

A couple of things you could do:

1.) Neg her on using the word "nimrod." Almost clichaic response: "The 1980s called they want their lingo back." Or be creative and come up with your own. Be playful about it, etc.

I suggest this because she ended her email lightheartedly. ie: "I'm glad we're on the same page now."

2.) Play it off/Ignore it. Worrying yourself over it will only hurt your game.

THEN:

Stop being so serious.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Stop being so serious.[/QUOTE said:
bingo. tease her back. this is the email equiv of her slapping you on the arm and going "jerk". you do know that she doenst want to fight you in the parking lot when she hits you like that and that she doesnt mean you are a jerk....right?
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