"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Hey guys.

If a girl (20 years old) is contacting a guy who she has had a heavy heavy crush on even after telling you that she realized hes a jerk and doesnt want to be with him, Do you confront her about it or leave it alone and let it come up naturally?
I only know because i saw that they're back to snappchatting 100+ snaps a nite to each other. She'll just lie and deny it if I bring it up.

Plus im not her bf just a guy who is very close to her. I know she put me in friendzone but its for the best bcus it would never work with her. Anyway, should i just let her live her life even tho she is lying to me about him? Or would you find a way to bring it up in a teasing way or somthing? thanks
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Lol... You know you're not her bf but you want advice on how to be? Just leave her alone don't talk to her anymore.
 
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even though you say it would never work i have a feeling deep down you want to it to

if this isn't deleterious to her being, then as a friend you wouldn't and shouldn't care
 
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You are pining for this girl because you have no other options or experience. Get out there and meet women. Also keep her around and use her as a wing girl. You will get instant attraction every time you are out with her. DO NOT BREAK CONTACT. Someone with your level of experience needs all the advantages you can get and having a hot girl in your social circle is HUGE.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Kbomb said:
You are pining for this girl because you have no other options or experience. Get out there and meet women. Also keep her around and use her as a wing girl. You will get instant attraction every time you are out with her. DO NOT BREAK CONTACT. Someone with your level of experience needs all the advantages you can get and having a hot girl in your social circle is HUGE.
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I second this.
Breaking contact means you're butthurt. Don't do it, if the only reason is the other guy.
Understand: you do not need her at all, thousands of other girls will make you happier, will like you more, are hotter. Once you really feel this, and you know you can have these girls, you'll subconsciously drop all clingyness and all neediness.
Then, only then, she'll pick up on this and maybe then you'll have a chance. But by then, believe me, you'll prefer to keep her as a wingman or FB.
 
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girls are crazy and you should never confront them because it just makes them even more unstable and more likely to ditch you.If you're friends now, take it from me buddy you won't be after confronting her, and that's regardless of how much the man abuses her. girls are ****ed up.

Which begs the question why you would want to hang out with such a bottom feeder anyway. The guys who said keep her around are right, but me, I don't have time for this ****. And if not getting laid is the price I have to pay for not putting up with psychodrama bull****, then fine.
 
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lookalike said:
Hey guys.

If a girl (20 years old) is contacting a guy who she has had a heavy heavy crush on even after telling you that she realized hes a jerk and doesnt want to be with him, Do you confront her about it or leave it alone and let it come up naturally?
I only know because i saw that they're back to snappchatting 100+ snaps a nite to each other. She'll just lie and deny it if I bring it up.

Plus im not her bf just a guy who is very close to her. I know she put me in friendzone but its for the best bcus it would never work with her. Anyway, should i just let her live her life even tho she is lying to me about him? Or would you find a way to bring it up in a teasing way or somthing? thanks
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hahahahahahaha! Is this a joke or something man!
'Cmon, you just cannot be serious!

You have the audacity to say that you are in the friendzone and it is for the best because it would never work between you two and yet you are asking some stupid sh*t like that???

Leave her alone man. You are nothing to her. Take this opportunity and LEAVE instead of decide wheter you confront her or not!
 
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Lotus Effect said:
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:

hahahahahahaha! Is this a joke or something man!
'Cmon, you just cannot be serious!

You have the audacity to say that you are in the friendzone and it is for the best because it would never work between you two and yet you are asking some stupid sh*t like that???

Leave her alone man. You are nothing to her. Take this opportunity and LEAVE instead of decide wheter you confront her or not!
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Most people are unconscious of their actions, take in consideration of that fact.

He is not aware of himself so be the better man and teach him instead of pointing and laughing.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I know i put myself out there as an easy target with this situation but the reason it would never work is because the girl is much younger than me. And without going into much detail, it would derail a very large train if I tried to go there with her. But ive grown so attached to having in her in my life, the line between friend and more than friends becomes blurry. I know this forum is for guys basically trying to get girls in bed but I also know there is a lot of wisdom for relationship in general on this forum.

As an update, i ended up not mentioning the guy. She's offered a little info on how much contact shes been having with him and how she feels about him. She says its nothing but ive been around long enough to know its more. but as many of you pointed out, its basically none of my business. Its kind of like yelling at a movie screen thinking you will change the outcome ha. ive set myself up for a big nasty fall but at this point in my life Im happy to feel any emotions at all. Before i met her, it was just a grey color all the time. Anyway, thank you guys for the help.
 
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lookalike said:
I know i put myself out there as an easy target with this situation but the reason it would never work is because the girl is much younger than me. And without going into much detail, it would derail a very large train if I tried to go there with her. But ive grown so attached to having in her in my life, the line between friend and more than friends becomes blurry. I know this forum is for guys basically trying to get girls in bed but I also know there is a lot of wisdom for relationship in general on this forum.

As an update, i ended up not mentioning the guy. She's offered a little info on how much contact shes been having with him and how she feels about him. She says its nothing but ive been around long enough to know its more. but as many of you pointed out, its basically none of my business. Its kind of like yelling at a movie screen thinking you will change the outcome ha. ive set myself up for a big nasty fall but at this point in my life Im happy to feel any emotions at all. Before i met her, it was just a grey color all the time. Anyway, thank you guys for the help.
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BAN THIS LOSER ALREADY
 
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On some level you need her in your life, although not clear to us, and until you don't, you'll be in continuous agony. This is why you can't have girls for friends.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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It just really saddens me reading your thread man.

I just cannot believe how could you allow put yourself in this situation.

Be warned man. Even though you believe that it's better feeling collorfull with her than grey without her, you will fall deeply for this girl, and the path you are taking is a one way road only.

She will not reciprocate the feeling, leaving you brokenhearted, and eventually bitter. Even more, she will show a side of her that you are not aware that exists now, which will lead you to eventually hate her, because she will be cold, distant and borderline b!tchy.

Get the f*ck out already. I had oneitis for a girl for many years when I was in high school. She was not my friend, but I talked to her from time to time, and she was always nice. This lasted 4 years. The moment I tried to get something more of it, she changed completely.

So what I did. I erased her from my existence. I've improved myself, became game aware, and pretty much deleted her from my life. 5 years later a friend of mine calls me and say, "Hey man, Adriana is in this party". By that time I wasn't in love with her anymore, but I did still wanted to taste that chick.

Got to the party, she was making out with another dude. We saw each other, complimented like long gone friends (We haven't seen or talked to each other in 5 years)...

Long story short, I talked with her for 5 minutes, kiss closed her, and I had a 3 weeks relationship with her. It did not worked out, but I was ok with that. A year later, I've saw her in a club, got her again.
F*cked her in the backseat of my car!

What I'm trying to say is. GET THE FVCK OUT! Improve yourself, and let life happen. Forget about this girl, and focus on yourself.

Or

A moment of silence...
 
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