Should I just ignore her?

[Dj48]

Girl has been showing signs she likes me for a few months, frequent eye contact, she seems to linger around me a lot and I think her friends know something about her feelings. I really liked her but I have found out recently she is in a relationship, but she has given me no indication of this whatsoever.

The last time I seen her I didn't pay any attention to her and she seemed to be very put out about this.

The question is, she doesn't know as far as I am concerned that I know anything about her relationship with someone else, but do I continue to pay her no attention or approach her and ask her why she is interested in me if she has someone else?

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

Girl has been showing signs she likes me for a few months, frequent eye contact, she seems to linger around me a lot and I think her friends know something about her feelings. I really liked her but I have found out recently she is in a relationship, but she has given me no indication of this whatsoever.

The last time I seen her I didn't pay any attention to her and she seemed to be very put out about this.

The question is, she doesn't know as far as I am concerned that I know anything about her relationship with someone else, but do I continue to pay her no attention or approach her and ask her why she is interested in me if she has someone else?

Never ask a woman why she's interested in you, because that implies that it's unnatural to you. Rather normalize it, of course she finds you attractive because you're a catch. It's normal for women to like you, nothing to contemplate there, don't work against it. The only exception to not asking is when you know the answer and want to hear her say it for a little ego boost.

You can network and talk to women without bringing up their relationships, so what's wrong with getting to know her better? Let her bring it up, and if she doesn't then focus on having a good time together as friends and tease her.

Personally if I see a taken woman act like she wants me and I like her, then I'll provide some opportunities for her to sin with me and let her bring up her current relationship on her own. If she never brings it up then that guy must not be very important to her.

 

[LTG71]

Her relationship must not be that good so she is looking to monkey branch or she wants to use you to fill the gaps her boyfriend is not filling, no pun intended. Remember, women need attention like fish need water

She already likes you so you don’t have to ask her why. Don’t degrade yourself with this type of question.

Also a bit of a red flag regarding her character. She‘s openly trying to start something with you while still in a relationship. She’d do the same to you eventually. You can give her some breadcrumbs of attention and see what she does, but don’t over pursue. If she has high interest, she‘ll make it easy for you. Flirt with her and see what she does. She might come back with, “oh, you got the wrong impression, I’m already in a relationship“, or she could be looking for a side piece.

Have a little fun with her but limit your investment since she‘s already in a relationship.

 

[Dj48]

Isn't a bit late to pay her any kind of attention now, being that she was visibly and audibly mad at me for not paying her any attention the last time?

 

[Barrister]

IMO - If she is in a relationship, then the answer to your question is "yes."

There are a lot of reasons for this, but the biggest two are: (1) she has a penchant for cheating or wanting to cheat given she is highly interested in you (and likely others) while she is in a relationship with another man -- if she will do it to him, she will do it to you if you progressed that far with her; (2) if you got involved with her in any way, expect a LOT of drama from the other man she is currently with and her -- perhaps directly from the man or her suddenly deciding she wants to work on her relationship with him after you two get involved.

There is a lot of pvssy out there - don't concern yourself with this one. Not worth all of the time, effort, and likely future headaches, brother. Some guys here will be all for banging women in relationships - but having done this once before (woman was in dying relationship I hooked up with), I don't condone it. Not because of any moral issue - but rather to make it easier on yourself - which is the most important thing.

 

[Dj48]

Thanks for your reply Barrister, I don't like ignoring women in fact it makes me feel terrible, but I get everything you say here.

If she officially broke up with her current boyfriend, how would I be able to trust her if she then became my girlfriend later on, she could be seeing other guys behind my back.

I am lucky in a way that I haven't been hasty and entered into a relationship with her before I found out she was attached.

I don't like the thought of looking over my shoulder every time I go out, so it would be easier to move on and find another woman who is totally available.

 

[dogsta]

I've just been through something like this. Just started a new job a few months ago. This mid-twenties blonde Latvian was giving off very strong interest signals - going as far wearing all black (I wear all black for work) and even sporting a watch like I do. She seems very emotional as well - I could read her like a book.

Anyway, was a new job, I'm on probation and I'm a believer in the saying, 'Don't stick your pen in company ink!'

For the fun of it, though, after a couple of months, I just asked her, 'Let's take this out of the workplace.' To which she replied, 'I don't go out.' ---- like, wut?! She preceded to waffle incoherently, put her head in her hands. Oookay then. I left it at that.

I suspect she was in a relationship at least.

I guess the moral of the story is, just confront her or move on.

 

[Dj48]

See what you mean Dogsta, it's suspicious to me a girl in her mid twenties doesn't go out at all.

Shes either rare that she isn't into socialising or she is seeing someone else.

In my predicament, I don't think confrontation is going to solve anything, I am more than likely going to have to walk away.

 

[Kotaix]

Isn't a bit late to pay her any kind of attention now, being that she was visibly and audibly mad at me for not paying her any attention the last time?

Ironically, paying the barest minimum of attention to her is exactly the way to keep her in orbit around you for when the time comes to make a move. If she likes you, she'll be pleasantly surprised if you give her some attention.

If you're only interested in her for sex, you could even lie and say that you were in a relationship.

You never know what others are going thru, it's not a safe bet to discount her just because she has a boyfriend. But that's all up to you.

 

[Giovanni SouthSide]

If a girl wants to go out with you, she will manipulate the moon and stars to make it happen regardless if she is in a relationship or not. Let her approach you and you do less of the talking. Just be a smooth operator.
Be a damn mystery to her
But real sh!t brotha, taken girls willing to put the horns on their dude are no good. Tho in the past I have had girls break up with their man for me. Every situation is different.
Personally in this case, I wouldnt open her up unless she talks to me but I wouldn't ignore her glances either. Let the tension build up.