Should I just blatently ditch this chick?

[rgeere]

Alright, there is this girl that has sort of a giver type personality that will do anything for any man that she has any sort of liking for. One day I meet her in one of the offices here where I attend college, and she invites me to come to where she works and give her some company. Normally I wouldn't walk into the place where she works like that, but she invited me so I take the offer. I go visit her that afternoon and 10 minutes after I'm there we get into a discussion on my reputation acrost campus as a ladies man. Well, I could tell she was sort of getting aroused by the discussion, and she whipped out a copy of the school directory with everyones pictures in it, and turned to the girls section and asked if there were any girls in there I liked. I responded by saying,"There are lots of girls I wouldn't mind dating." She then told me to calm down while maintaining her interested composure, and we talked for a little while after that. Well, I disappear for a day or two, and meet her coming out of one of the offices again, and she acts really happy to see me and gives me this hugh hug like several times over. So I thank her for the hug and walked her back to her office, and we get into a discussion on when we were both going to be leaving for summer, and she gives me her address and cellphone number to keep in touch with. I mention to her that I was taking the bus back, and she offers to give me a ride to the bus station, and since I have no car of my own, and needed a ride anyways I accepted her offer. Well, here I am thinking she was really interested in me and low and behold a couple of days later she starts talking about a boyfriend she just got that and wouldn't shut up about all of the things that he does for her. Then she starts this crap about being "friends" and that she is sorry if I am hurt and she will still take me to the bus station. This sort of pisses me off; because this girl shows every sign of wanting me and then starts this on me. She keeps insisting that she wants me as a friend and doesn't want me to leave. I just want to bolt personally.

So how do you guys think I should handle this? Personally I just want to bolt, but on the other hand I will save money if I get a ride with her, not that I want to use her or anything. I'm just pissed off at the way that she just blew me off the way she did.

 

[icehot]

Clearly you just got LJBF. Which always su@cks but remember, a DJ should always be cool at all times.

I say take the ride and act like you couldn't care less about her.

-iceH

 

[rgeere]

I think your're right. I should shake her hand and give her a wad of cash afterwards for gas or something. You think since she just wants to be friends that I should talk about all the other girls I have been with for the past few years around her the entire way there? She does it to me...

 

[Starman]

Wow , women really are crazy..she must like you, but she probably has a boyfriend.

I wouldnt really mention any ladies..she will know you're game ..its too obvious..she talks about guys, you talk about girls..do something subtle..like accidently leave your notebook open with some chicks #..and a heart around it..

 

[rgeere]

Originally posted by Starman
Wow , women really are crazy..she must like you, but she probably has a boyfriend.

I wouldnt really mention any ladies..she will know you're game ..its too obvious..she talks about guys, you talk about girls..do something subtle..like accidently leave your notebook open with some chicks #..and a heart around it..

That is what I should have done in the first place, but screwed up.
When I was getting to know her I noticed she was a giver type personally, so I took the advice in the "giver and takers" section and actually tried to give a little back to this girl, and it raised her interest level in me extreemly. The problem that I have to overcome now before all of this LJBF bull is to deal with her high standards concerning boyfriends. For a while I had her considering me for a boyfriend. I had to move some of my so earlier so she lent me her car, and not only did she ride in the passenger seat, she helped me clean up my stuff. This was after our little discussion about me being the campus ladies man.

Then I made one slight little mistake....

I put her on a pedestole.

The problem is that now she is treating herself like the prize to be won. I gave a little back thinking that it would raise her interest level in me intensively, and it did, she was hugging me and smiling at me like all the time, but she lost romantic interest in me for it, which is why I am thinking about maybe getting another ride and making her feel a little worthless for giving me the run around she did, and when she tries to hug me next time I am thinking about giving her a little speech on respect or something; because I shouldn't put up with this stuff.

This is mainly the reason why I want to just get out of there, and find my own ride. I had her coming after me with me as her focus and when I put her on a pedestole she became the focus, and now I have to do something to get myself back as the focus or she will keep thinking she is in charge, and she isn't and I need to let her know that.

Well, atleast this is the way I am viewing things at the moment.

 

[Quick]

Yeah, you probably did go wrong somewhere. Your current plans are fine, except for the speech if she hugs you. Act like it doesn't matter that she found someone else. The DJ thing would be to tell her that her bf is no big deal, and you always thought of her as a friend anyway. Then you tell her that you still need the ride, and you give her gas money after you get it. One thing is for sure. You can't get her back by chasing after her. You might not be able to get her back at all. So you have to move on either way, and act like you can't ever get her back. As far as how you act from now on, ask yourself how you would be with her if you weren't attracted to her and just thought she was a cool person, and then do that.

 

[rgeere]

Maybe I am acting a tad bit irrational there. Yeah, I'll take the ride down there with her. I just talked with her and set some stuff up. Thanks for the advice.

 

[DankNuggs]

You sound like a chick, don't give speeches or try to play games, you should have offered to go out for coffee or a drink after your first conversation, people have to learn that its alright to assert yourself as a man... keep her as an acquantance, not a friend...

 

[rgeere]

Originally posted by DankNuggs
You sound like a chick, don't give speeches or try to play games, you should have offered to go out for coffee or a drink after your first conversation, people have to learn that its alright to assert yourself as a man... keep her as an acquantance, not a friend...

That does not sound good at all. Time for some major corrections in behaviour.