"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Should I/ How do I break the friendzone?

mightymitch

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I have been very close friends with this girl since high school. Actually in high school we were merely friends. Since we have graduated we began to grow closer and closer, to the point where we can tell each other anything and everything. When she goes to school during the year we talk almost every day and haven't gone more than 3 days without making contact with one another. When ever she does come home from school I am usually the first one to know and to see her. When we do get together we usually cuddle together and watch a movie or talk about past times and experiences. Our mutual friends know how I feel about her but give me little to no advice on what to do as they are stumped as well. They do however say to me (this started as a joke, but has sort of progressed since they found out how I truly feel about her) that two of us are perfect for one another and that we should end up together in the end. When the two of us go out in public we are constantly being pegged as a couple because of the way that we bicker and talk (usually like an old married couple). And the two of us have determined that we are way more than friends and that is where the convo usually stops. On countless occasions she has told me that I am her "best guy friend" and she cares for me and doesn’t want to see anything bad ever happen to me. This became apparent to me the night she found out I smoked and she cried for over two hours because she was afraid that I was going to die (I have since quit because she made me). We have everything in common, the same tastes. Her parents have even mentioned to me that we would make a cute couple (my mother has fallen in love with this girl as well) and have tried to push me to ask her out a few times.

That all being said I don't know what to do. On one hand I care for her more than anything else in the world. On the other hand I have a great friend that I know will go out of her way to help through anything I need (and vise versa). I would like our relationship to progress beyond its current status, but I do not want to ruin what we currently have. I have gone out with a few girls since I started having these feelings towards her but they just don't do it for me. This girl has everything I have been looking for but I am stuck in friend stage with her and I don't know how to escape or make a break for it without hurting feelings and possibly ending the friendship. What do I do and how do I do it?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Thanks for the links, I will have to study and find the best method to overcome this situation.
 

jigga23

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dude why dont you just pull away a little bit from her keep convo short dont always answer the phone and see what she does
 
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