"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Should I hit her up or just wait til I see her again?

NotAgain

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Things have been intensifying between me and a chick that volunteers at our local community centre. We close up together so things always end with her and me. The other night I almost kiss closed her but did not. Went from a hug to me starting to kiss her neck and she was loving it before dropping everything asking why I make her do that to her all the time. I only see her once a week and because I don't text or call her in between, it's kept up the attraction because she says she misses me a lot.

Now I feel I probably should have asked her out then as she's been alluding to it from me for a while now but I have this knack that I can't think straight when ever I get into situations like this.

Thing is this next week I won't be seeing her. I have to juggle exams and an operation. As such I was wondering, should I actually hit her up during this time or let the week past and not worry and ask her out definitely next I see her? I was thinking about shooting a text to see if she'd want to chill out and be a dummy patient for me (I study in the medical field) and go from there. Or should I simply not care and take it as it is. I guess my minds thinking a weeks a long time when she could meet someone new or lose interest.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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SmooveMooves

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Hit her up homie. Sounds like she's super interested so it doesnt really matter if you text her during the week of absence.

Thats a pretty Smoove line too.
 

NotAgain

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I guess I read her wrong? Messaged her yesterday and got a reply a couple hours later but then nothing when I asked. I know she is away this weekend - she told me she was going into the country side (over here we have limited reception in the outback) with a girl friend so reception could be poor but I just don't buy it nor expect a reply.

What I have learnt from this:
- don't let woman pepper your ego to the point you get attached emotionally
- when the opportunity arises, take it: should have asked her out in person
 

GotED?

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If you have seen a woman more than 3 dates (not just 'friends' - real dates), it is more or so the milestone where you start breaking the seeing 'once a week' limitation as she is going to want more out of you.

If you fail to recipricate what she is needing from you (because she feels more for you), you could risk her closing up on you because women don't keep that door open for very long being vulnerable and having the guts to let a guy know how she feels without being recipricated.

It comes down to a form of art over time and experience - being able to judge how much a woman needs from you and at the same time, having your game and frame in place.

Good luck.

Exodus
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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