"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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should i have stood up for what i believed in?or give in?

ScrewIt

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yea anyway i was watching a movie w/this HB8 yesterday.
First 50 Dates.

and i noticed one of the characters which had the messed up voice, was none other than Sam Wise from LOTR.

i said, hey, that looks like Sam Wise from LOTR.
she didnt have her glasses at the time, so i lent her mines to check if it was him. she said nah it's not him.

NO doubt it was him because i have good photographic memory.
i go "no? oh well"

i know you're supposed to stick up for what you believe in, but i dindt want to seem stubborn and start a debate w/her that she was wrong. If i was w/my guy buddies, i'd stick up for what i believed in.

did i do good in this situation or no? or what should i have done?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Julian

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This is why i dont come to this board anymore, i mean seriously man. Do you not have anything better to do then ask a question as inane as this?
 

SDBmania

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Hmm, dude, who cares? J/K

Look sorry, but it's just that why does it matter?
You could have just stuck to your guns without getting into a debate, but it's not important who is wrong or right. And this was not an important issue. I'm sure she won't bring it up so you shouldn't wither.
 

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You should have punched her in the mouth.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Dude, you did well, sometimes you just have to pick your battles. This does not mean that you have to agree with someone else all of the time or even some of the time. The important thing that you agree or not agree to do is to argue about it. Do you want to be right or do you want things to work? It's a fine line to balance upon.

Now I would bring up with her if it seems to be a reoccurring pattern of her disagreeing with you as if she is challenging you. That isn't cool. If that's the case, definitely ask her about what she feels when you give her information. She could be insecure and internalize that you do not feel that she's very intelligent.

I'm in no way saying that you mean to do that but lets face it, women do not always hear things logically in their emotional minds. Just be ready for the flood gates to open up when you ask her about her feelings.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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