"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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should i have stayed or gone as i did?

big weezy

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i started talking to this girl next to me who had a suitcase and asked if she was going on holiday.

i talked for like 30mins but set an alarm on my phone for 20mins to give me an excuse to leave as i have a tendency to stay too long. i was getting friendzoned and none of my material was really working on her even though we had loads to talk about and similar intereste.

she was writing an email at the time but afte3r 20mins of convo she closed down her laptop with me thinking she was getting ready to leave but actually she was just closing it to save battery so she could talk to me instead. i took that as a cue to get her digits but she apparantly have a number only her foreign number so we swapped bbm's instead.

i felt i was getting friendzoned and was desperately tryna save the pick up too no avail, she excued herself to go to the bathroom but i could tell she wasn't making a sharp exit.. she was just bored, needed some time to kill before her flight later and i was there.. i decided to pack up and leave, so waited for her to get back from the bathroom and said my goodbyes.

she still wanted to talk, should i have stayed to try to salvage this somewhat weak pick up or did i make the right decision to leave?

i felt had i stayed longer i mighta been able to create some sort of IL or get out of the friendzone i was in while it was fresh. then again staying around any longer woulda made it look like i had nothing to do and wasn't busy.

she's not interested i could tell, even prior going to the bathroom but was open to talking (wanted attention), she kept pulling her top up so she wouldn't expose her cleavage to me (she was wearing a low cut top as it was) i took that as a bad sign, like if she was interested she'd want me to notice her cleavage.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You made the right decision. You've got places to be and you got her bbm. So, contact her later and if there's something there then it will happen. If not it's still ok. You should really go with your gut on making such calls.
 

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jafyk said:
You made the right decision. You've got places to be and you got her bbm. So, contact her later and if there's something there then it will happen. If not it's still ok. You should really go with your gut on making such calls.
the problem is that i knew i hadn't created enough interest but i had already spoken to her 30mins by the time she went to the toilet.

i didnt like how she kissed me goodbye, it was so fake and rude. basically she was just using me for attention to pass the time till her train was due.

that's why i felt i should have stayed longer to see if i could create better IL. i.e. by maybe being more direct and sexually aggresive. cos the impression i left was 1 of friendzone. her giving me such a fake goodbye just told me she was just using me and was upset that i was leaving to not validate her anymore.

she didnt reply to my bbm as expected.
 
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