"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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should i have stayed or gone as i did?

big weezy

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i started talking to this girl next to me who had a suitcase and asked if she was going on holiday.

i talked for like 30mins but set an alarm on my phone for 20mins to give me an excuse to leave as i have a tendency to stay too long. i was getting friendzoned and none of my material was really working on her even though we had loads to talk about and similar intereste.

she was writing an email at the time but afte3r 20mins of convo she closed down her laptop with me thinking she was getting ready to leave but actually she was just closing it to save battery so she could talk to me instead. i took that as a cue to get her digits but she apparantly have a number only her foreign number so we swapped bbm's instead.

i felt i was getting friendzoned and was desperately tryna save the pick up too no avail, she excued herself to go to the bathroom but i could tell she wasn't making a sharp exit.. she was just bored, needed some time to kill before her flight later and i was there.. i decided to pack up and leave, so waited for her to get back from the bathroom and said my goodbyes.

she still wanted to talk, should i have stayed to try to salvage this somewhat weak pick up or did i make the right decision to leave?

i felt had i stayed longer i mighta been able to create some sort of IL or get out of the friendzone i was in while it was fresh. then again staying around any longer woulda made it look like i had nothing to do and wasn't busy.

she's not interested i could tell, even prior going to the bathroom but was open to talking (wanted attention), she kept pulling her top up so she wouldn't expose her cleavage to me (she was wearing a low cut top as it was) i took that as a bad sign, like if she was interested she'd want me to notice her cleavage.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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You made the right decision. You've got places to be and you got her bbm. So, contact her later and if there's something there then it will happen. If not it's still ok. You should really go with your gut on making such calls.
 

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jafyk said:
You made the right decision. You've got places to be and you got her bbm. So, contact her later and if there's something there then it will happen. If not it's still ok. You should really go with your gut on making such calls.
the problem is that i knew i hadn't created enough interest but i had already spoken to her 30mins by the time she went to the toilet.

i didnt like how she kissed me goodbye, it was so fake and rude. basically she was just using me for attention to pass the time till her train was due.

that's why i felt i should have stayed longer to see if i could create better IL. i.e. by maybe being more direct and sexually aggresive. cos the impression i left was 1 of friendzone. her giving me such a fake goodbye just told me she was just using me and was upset that i was leaving to not validate her anymore.

she didnt reply to my bbm as expected.
 
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