"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Should I go or would I be setting myself up for failure?

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My girlfriend is the maid of honor at her friends wedding tomorrow. I work so going to the ceremony isnt an option, but she wants me to show up at some point during the reception to "dance with her."

The problem is I would literally not know a single person except for her. (well, I met the bride and groom once briefly). I'm an introvert so making new friends out of a huge group of strangers isn't my favorite hobby, so I'd likely end up following her around like a lost puppy all night. Don't get me twisted though, I am generally the life of the party when I am with people I'm comfortable around. But this particular situation doesn't look too promising for my social proof.

On the other hand there is a small chance that it could turn out to be nothing like I expect and it actually be a great time for both of us.

I'm torn. Should I avoid the potentially ugly situation, or suck it up and just go and have fun. Opinions please!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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As long as the bride and groom are cool with it, you should definitely go.

A wedding isn't usually like a 21st birthday piss-up where everyone is just talking about how smashed they got on the weekend. There will be parents, uncles, aunts and the like who in my experience are generally not so cliquey and will want to talk to the guy who's dancing with the maid of honour.

Hopefully your girl will have some food set aside for you :)

Nothing ugly about this one, go and have a great time!
 
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I am going to have to agree with you guys. I just need to get out of my comfort zone a bit I suppose. I'm gonna go.

Good advice Cremasta!
 
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Yes GO. Broads get super horny after going to a wedding/reception. Specialy after some wine & dancing. This one chick I was dating last spring was blowing me on the way home.
She didn't even wanna wait to get to her house, she's like find a park! Yeah that was a fun nite definitely worth it.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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