"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Should I go for it, or not?

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So, I wound up going to prom last night with a wonderful girl who is, unfortunately, the gf of a guy I know (I had asked her to prom before he asked her out, but then he didn't want to go to prom, so we went anyway).
We had a great time---I had her laughing and kinoing me a lot, although we didn't dance a whole lot together because of the slight awkwardness, plus one of her friends kept ****-blocking me (and I get the sense that my date felt a little blocked as well).

So, we had a great time, and I have the feeling that I might have been able to get away with more than I did...
All in all, success. The thing is, I would like to see if I could make anymore headway w/ her.

Her bf is, in my opinion, a bit of an AFC (although I'm the pot calling the kettle black here), so IDK how much longer they'll last...but regardless, how can I build from my positive interaction @ prom into an increase in attraction?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You wanna play steals? Okay, there's nothing wrong with that... Well... Just game her how you normally would... If she likes you enough she will ditch this "kettle" :)
 

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Venusian Artist said:
You wanna play steals? Okay, there's nothing wrong with that... Well... Just game her how you normally would... If she likes you enough she will ditch this "kettle" :)

Very true. Just act like she has no boyfriend. If she says... "but I have a boyfriend..." just be like, "and..? he's not here now is he?" :rolleyes:
 

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Thanks, guys. Actually, I'm not that concerned about the whole bf thing. My plan has been to try to succeed be being more on the sidelines, so that as she and the bf talk all the time and his excitement and mystery are stripped away, I emerge as the more interesting alternative. Well, my question is, how do I go about striking the balance between totally disappearing from the radar on the one hand, and being too obvious on the other. Since she's a soph and her bf and I are both seniors, I only see her a bit during the school day (enough time to be like, "hi" or some such, maybe brief chit-chat); most of our pre-prom communication took place over Facebook messaging, so that's what I've got to work with.

I don't really know what I'm interested in a whole lot, but I have a gut feeling that I could get farther. So....any advice?
 

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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Ok, here's the thing Ed, I personally disagree with stealing/seducing a taken girl because 1.) I maintain my integrity, 2.) Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor's wife (I'm not a fundamentalist imposing religion, but nonetheless it is a good virtue) 3.) I wouldn't want someone trying to steal my girl. So there you have it.

Now, if she is unhappy with her relationship and she is on the prowl demonstrate that you're a great alternative.

If she is happy with her bf, don't ruin it, but some flirting here and there is harmless.
 

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aussie...fair enough...I personally don't have quite as many qualms...although I think it's wrong to break up a marriage/engagement/really long-term relationship, most HS relationships are transitory anyway...

That said, I'm probably not going to pursue it assiduously...they're both pretty happy, I have several other options, and I'll just look bad. I'll probably just run enough mild game to stay on her radar, if need be, but nothing more...
 
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