Should I go for it now?

[Radiator]

This girl has been coming to talk to me a lot on campus lately. I've got some pretty strong IOIs from her (she's kinoing me a lot, feeling my muscles and always asks me what I'm going to do in the evening) but I've talked to her like a friend all the time. Now I'd like to do something about all this. She gave me her number and I gave her mine for some assignment we had.

What I'd like to know is, do you think I should call her up before new year's eve to set up a date (I was thinking that we could watch a movie that she's been talking about at her place) or should I wait until we meet naturally in the beginning of January? I'm thinking maybe it might be too much meeting at her place the first date and since I haven't shown any interest before she might freak if I just call her like this. You got any advice on this?

I'm still a rAFC but this is one of the rare occasions when I don't get oneitis as soon as a girl shows any interest so I think I should be able to handle this well.

 

[unknownDJ]

you don't need advice for that.. you're reading into it too much, seems like you're nervous and paranoid about her reactions towards you if she does find out that you like her.
from what you've said it's pretty obvious that she's into you. Basically just give her a call and see whats up?


unknownDJ -

 

[Radiator]

You're right!

The thing is, I don't know if I like her yet because I don't know her well enough. Ah well, if it works out I'll keep you posted.

 

[Fash]

Dude,

She is definately into you. You need to do something about that before she loses interest or another guy takes her attention away from you.

Whenever you talk to a girl, ALWAYS remember that women like sex too! Infact, some even want it more than men! but they have to be more careful about giving it up.

What you have to do is aproach the situation in a non-threatening manner. Don't ask her to the movies or invite her for dinner! That is typical "Date" scenarios and that *COULD* freak her out.

Instead, give HER the opportunity to spend time with YOU in a neutral environment. Instead of the movies, take her to a comedy show, ice-skating, etc. Something original that she will remember!

Once you are with her and she is feeling comfortable and you get more IOIs, do the phase shift, make the connection, and make your intentions known. Go for the kiss close, and before you know she will be inviting you back to show you her "place" that she has been going on about.

Let us know how you get on!

Remember, YOU are giving HER the opportunity to have a good time! If she passes up on it..... HER LOSS!!!!

 

[Radiator]

I promised an update so here it comes.

I took the unneedy way out and didn't call during the holidays. She called me this week and wanted to get together and study for an exam. I told her ok and we decided to meet on monday. She just called and confirmed the times for tomorrow! Wish me luck now!