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Should I give up on deadlifts?
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Same here guys, I've been trying to do it for awhile now.bud_2005 said:Maybe I'm just not built to do deadlifts. I just can't figure out the form. I watched many youtube videos on how to do them. But my lower back always kills me afterwards. I'm getting really frustrated.
But it just doesn't seem to feel right. I'll have to video tape myself one of these days and post it up.
A couple of the guys at the gym say I'm doing it with correct form, but it just doesn't feel like it.
But any tips? Like things we should do that sometimes forget?
Maybe your own experiences..
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She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
When i concentrated on that my form was a lot better and just naturally went the right way. Lower the weight if your hips are shooting up faster than your shoulders (stiff legging it). I lowered the weight by 20 lbs and had to work back to my previous but now my back doesn't hurt after them.
Drag the bar up your body or very very close to it. Then when the bar gets to your knees, hump the bar.
Really. I had more power shooting my hips straight up and tearing it from the ground and i didn't realize i was doing that so much. Then i concentrated on not letting my hips and the bar leave the ground unless my shoulders were following them up at the same rate... if that means less weight so be it. My back is MUCH less aggravated afterwards now and i'm back to the same weight i was at before in a few weeks.
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The big trouble for them happens to be to get the back at a lower angle to the floor, they are crouching pretty much with a vertical back like in a squatting exercise.
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This is important. Also, remember to push off with the heel of your foot, not the ball of your foot.MrS said:You push your feet into the ground, push your hips forwards.
You could also try shoes that do not have any raised heels and flat soles. I use converse all stars with good luck. I know they make shoes specific for weightlifting, but I haven't found them.
You could try deadlifting barefoot too, if your gym allows it.
The deadlift is my favorite exercise. Good luck and get the form down before adding a lot of weight.
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She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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It sounds like you have tight hamstrings, which is preventing you from using proper form. I agree you should give up on deadlifts... Until you loosen your hammies a bit.
Do a google search on hamstring stretches, and just do them every day.
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I dont think that could be the culprit. I have hamstring inflexibility, to such a degree that I can only touch the middle of my shin with my hands when bending over, no deeper. But it doesnt interfere with doing deadlifts because the movement doesnt include having to bend over while knees are straight, its bending over with knees flexed which doesnt stretch hamstrings to their limit.Quiksilver said:Can't believe no one's mentioned this yet...
It sounds like you have tight hamstrings, which is preventing you from using proper form. I agree you should give up on deadlifts... Until you loosen your hammies a bit.
Do a google search on hamstring stretches, and just do them every day.
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as suggested by others above, there are lots of bad deadlift vids out there, esp. on youtube but also elsewhere.bud_2005 said:leaning back which it looked like they were doing in the videos.