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Should I give this chick another chance?

Mike5511

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I've was seeing this girl for the last month and we hit it off pretty well, she seemed cool and easy going.
Things took a bad turn over the weekend though. When we went to a party, she acted all jealous and insecure over a few girls that happened to cross my field of vision. She then complained that I was not making enough time for her and acted like she didn't want to see me again.
Thinking it was over, she calls me up Sun night to try to get me to go out! WTF? I didn't answer her call and let the machine pick it up.
The thing is, I am not sure if her behavior points to future drama or if she might have had a bad night. (She's usually cool when we hang out but this event left me concerned). I've had girls act like this in the past and I just don't want to deal with anymore BS.
I do kind of like her though. Should I at least call her back or make her stir for awhile?
 

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Mike5511 said:
I've was seeing this girl for the last month and we hit it off pretty well, she seemed cool and easy going.
Things took a bad turn over the weekend though. When we went to a party, she acted all jealous and insecure over a few girls that happened to cross my field of vision. She then complained that I was not making enough time for her and acted like she didn't want to see me again.
Thinking it was over, she calls me up Sun night to try to get me to go out! WTF? I didn't answer her call and let the machine pick it up.
The thing is, I am not sure if her behavior points to future drama or if she might have had a bad night. (She's usually cool when we hang out but this event left me concerned). I've had girls act like this in the past and I just don't want to deal with anymore BS.
I do kind of like her though. Should I at least call her back or make her stir for awhile?

sounds like a lot of ball aching to me, no i would not see her again, too much like hard work and only a month, let her down, but do her a favour and tell her she is too much and you cant handle the jealousy issues, maybe next time she will think twice, sometimes its crual to be kind.

Or if you do what to see her, call her on her faults, tell her if she does not stop your finished.

She is into you big style, you cant do no worng here!
 

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She sounds like an ATTENTION HORE!

Might have just been a 1 off thow..

What i would do is give her one more chance. Moment she does something like that **** again....make an example of her there and then and tell her you aint going to put up with that ****.
 

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I wouldn't be so harsh after one bad experience. Give her the benefit of the doubt as it could have just been a bad day or something.

If it repeats then you know what to do.
 

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Had bad experience with that, when you're with her she's easy.. but when you talk on the phone or instant messenger she is different and always complaining..

She is just insecure and acting in the wrong way, if you really like this girl.. i would give her another chance, and make clear that you don't take any bull from her.

If she repeats it's, then you know it.. in the future it can only get worse!
 

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