"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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should i gain weight or lose weight?

sfeclipse

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hey all...this is my 1st post...i'm really confused and i'm hoping someone can help me out here.

basically it comes down to me choosing either diesel's bulking diet or the cutting diet...and i can't decide which one to go with.

stats...(been workin out for about a yr now)

15% bf...180lbs...6'2...

kinda thin legs and arms...arms not so thin...been workin out from 1 yr so not as bad ;) but couldn't care less for the love handles and the 34' waist.

i'm not "skinny fat" but because i'm tall, it makes me look thin so i kinda sorta fall there...i hope i'm makin sense.

my dilema is whether i should continue on my 3000 cals with 4 day routine and 2 day HIIT routine or if i should use diesels cutting diet and drop the bf to 10% and then continue with the 3000 cals with 4 day routine and 2 day HIIT plan...

what do y'all reckon?

thanks!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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waldo

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I'd do the cutting. Lose all the fat whilst holding on to most of the muscle, then slowly build the muscle on top of your new ripped body.

If you bulk then sure you'll get more muscle, but eventually you'll want to look ripped and get a low body fat %. If you bulk too much then the waistline inevitably suffers.
 

madgame

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15 percent bodyfat sounds pretty much ok to me and after gaining some muscle itll even be easier for you to cut down. However the bulking part is gonna take a few years anyways i guess, but the cutting part will only take you about 2 months and youre likely to put on a little more fat during the time that youre gonna be bulking (you will probably still look more ripped/muscular/whateva if u gain lots of muscle and just a little fat though)...so if you're unsure Id go for the cutting part.
 

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Wow, you sound just like me. When i started lifting about 7 months ago, i didn't know about bulking and cutting. I was basically bulking. I started at about 190, 6'4, and probably 17% bodyfat. I bulked up a bit, but then i changed course cause i realize all chicks like abs, and mine, including other muscles, didn't look defined cause they were under a layer of fat.
So, i started cutting, but still lifted as hard as i could. It was tough, but my bodyfat is down a couple percentage points, and my arms, albeit smaller than a few months ago, are more cut looking. It looks kind of cool, and even though i don't look like i lift much in clothes, hopefully this summer when people see me, they'll see that i'm tone with low bodyfat.

What does suck is my shoulders and neck aren't as big anymore. Skinny dudes need to do shoulder shrugs for the neck area, and exercises for delts to look wider. Also, without a shirt on, lats can make you look wider, with that killer V shape.

So, i say you lower that bodyfat to about 10-ish%, then maintain it while you get bigger muscles.
And don't forget your squats!!! Do 'em!!!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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