Should I fight for Alpha status with my Brother In India?

[Canadien]

I am traveling in India right now, and everything I do is compared with my bro, and he is getting an alpha status..:cuss:

This is one year project into Donjuan land for me, I've studied, and practiced a lot of material, and I try to be as interesting as possible, still everyone seeks approval and validation in India, very different from Canada, and my Bro is a rock star in that department, while I'm not..

Situation: My Bro is clicking very well with family members, yet I am not, should I take this seriously? Somehow I can't do anything like North America in India, what kind of approach would you guys recommend?

 

[Andromax]

In my opinion, a lot of people have the misconception that there can be only one Alpha male.

Alpha males are Alpha because of the way they act. Alpha males are not afraid or intimidated by other alpha males. They are not obsessed with out Alpha'ing other Alpha males, their confidence and actions speak for themselves.
Alpha males are the masters of their domain, of their own lives.
Do not live your life based on your brothers status. Develop your own by improving your life, your masculinity.

Pursue things that bring you joy, not things that you think will make you measure up to a conception that you have created in your head based on jealousy.

 

[KarmaSutra]

The underlying issue is why are you in competition with your brother in the first place? Are you perhaps a bit jealous of the attention he recieves from your family? Do you think he has an edge over you?

There's something not quite right about this as it appears you have an abundance of animosity toward your brother for him being who he is?

Did he steal one of your matchbox cars when you were kids?

 

[Bonafide]

The thing is... your not Alpha, and you never will be. It's not in you, You weren't born to be Alpha. Your the beta and its not going to change. The fact that your jelous of your own brother is a shame. Your beta, and thats all you will ever be. You will never be Alpha in any situation, any place... you might think you are but sorry, your not. Thats just the reality.


The real alpha male, always KNOWS hes alpha...and if you mean to literally fight your brother a real alpha... he doesn't have to fight for it... were not like animals. We don't fight for the status... unless of course its a gang or some other stupid sh1t like that.

And even if you did happen to beat your brother up, do you think your family would see you any different? They would probably despise you even more than they already do.



Is he better looking than you?

If so, there is a thing known as the Halo effect where people treat good looking people alot better.

 

[playa99]

lol why do u need to fight for alpha status, a true alpha does not need to prover he is alpha he knows he is, if you fight to be alpha you are being wanabee alpha which is bad stop trying to prove yourself as an alpha male lol

 

[zinc64]

I am traveling in India right now, and everything I do is compared with my bro, and he is getting an alpha status..:cuss:

This is one year project into Donjuan land for me, I've studied, and practiced a lot of material, and I try to be as interesting as possible, still everyone seeks approval and validation in India, very different from Canada, and my Bro is a rock star in that department, while I'm not..

Situation: My Bro is clicking very well with family members, yet I am not, should I take this seriously? Somehow I can't do anything like North America in India, what kind of approach would you guys recommend?

Quit being a jealous little ***** and wish your brother the best of luck in life. You are definitely no alpha....more like the jealous ugly stepsister. The fact that he's clicking more with family members tells me alot about your situation. I see you as very jealous and bitter. If you want to be anything close to alpha than eliminate any feelings of jealous and open up your heart and quit focusing so much on yourself and your own feelings.

 

[mutambo]

YES BEAT UP YOUR BROTHER !!!
and make a videotape put it on youtube and send me the link, ill judge if your alpha enough.

winner wil get a banana, rope, and the top of the rocky mountain in the jungle near the river

 

[raiz]

The real question here is, why does it upset you that he is getting this "alpha" status.

It's hurting your ego.

Ask yourself these questions:

What if you never had a brother?

What type of relationship would you like to build with your family members?

What stopping me from feeling happy for my brother? What is making me feel jealous of him?

If I were the alpha male, what would I do?

 

[Interceptor]

The underlying issue is why are you in competition with your brother in the first place? Are you perhaps a bit jealous of the attention he recieves from your family? Do you think he has an edge over you?

There's something not quite right about this as it appears you have an abundance of animosity toward your brother for him being who he is?

Did he steal one of your matchbox cars when you were kids?

KS has stated your REAL underlying problem.
You have extreme insecurity in yourself. YOU NEED attention. YOU NEED other people's VALIDATION. You are ENVIOUS.

You feel low self esteem and need to BOOST your Ego. This is WRONG.
Ego is not to be inflated.
Only Self Esteem. And you do not gain it in this way.

Learn how to assert yourself and get yoru needs met by obtaining Win/Win situations, be mature and disciplined.

And you're equating your self worth with some ALPHA status that your brother has, which is IMAGINARY.

Your brother has NO ALPHA status.

NO ALPHA STATUS. None.

he is not a leader of men.
He is not a mentor or a 'go to' guy
He is not a warrior
he is not the 'lover' of the family, in that, your family is not sexually attracted to him, or being sexual with him
he is not protecting territory

a number of things this guy is not doing or has.
Re define your defintion iof ALPHA male.
Your brother is defintiely NOT it.


get yourself to gether,and think about your real core issues.

 

[zinc64]

KS has stated your REAL underlying problem.
You have extreme insecurity in yourself. YOU NEED attention. YOU NEED other people's VALIDATION. You are ENVIOUS.

You feel low self esteem and need to BOOST your Ego. This is WRONG.
Ego is not to be inflated.
Only Self Esteem. And you do not gain it in this way.

Learn how to assert yourself and get yoru needs met by obtaining Win/Win situations, be mature and disciplined.

And you're equating your self worth with some ALPHA status that your brother has, which is IMAGINARY.

Your brother has NO ALPHA status.

NO ALPHA STATUS. None.

he is not a leader of men.
He is not a mentor or a 'go to' guy
He is not a warrior
he is not the 'lover' of the family, in that, your family is not sexually attracted to him, or being sexual with him
he is not protecting territory

a number of things this guy is not doing or has.
Re define your defintion iof ALPHA male.
Your brother is defintiely NOT it.


get yourself to gether,and think about your real core issues.

Don't forget about the part about not getting jealous.