Should I feel bad about this?

[Oddman]

I've known her for a year and we had a fling and basically I've asked her out many times in the past but she made excuses but I'm still interested. It was my birthday yesterday and she kept being nice and txting me etc and it was lovely. She txt me last night but I missed it, then I told her that I was asleep which I was, and she txt me telling me she wanted to give me a birthday kiss.

I got happy and txt her back saying sounds good and I wanted to see her but tonight I had plans anyway but didn't mention that. She txt me she can see me tonight if I am free and I didn't see her txt and replied 40 minutes later by calling then sending her a txt saying I just saw her txt and askin her what she was up 2. Then sent another txt sayin I was out of town at the moment.

I haven't told her what I was doing but I'm sure she knows I'm busy. I actually would love to see her, but she txts me at the wrong time when she has had weeks to see me. Even on valentines I think she wanted to see me but I didn't ask as I know she sees other guys. Even on her Birthday she invited me and then didn't even let me know. She always plays games and even this is unlikely to happen if I did agree to meet. I want to speak to her but she never answers her phone especially in these situations. Two days later I got a random txt saying. "Lets start a family. lets have kids!" WTF

 

[jglide123]

I've known her for a year and we had a fling and basically I've asked her out many times in the past but she made excuses but I'm still interested. It was my birthday yesterday and she kept being nice and txting me etc and it was lovely. She txt me last night but I missed it, then I told her that I was asleep which I was, and she txt me telling me she wanted to give me a birthday kiss.

I got happy and txt her back saying sounds good and I wanted to see her but tonight I had plans anyway but didn't mention that. She txt me she can see me tonight if I am free and I didn't see her txt and replied 40 minutes later by calling then sending her a txt saying I just saw her txt and askin her what she was up 2. Then sent another txt sayin I was out of town at the moment.

I haven't told her what I was doing but I'm sure she knows I'm busy. I actually would love to see her, but she txts me at the wrong time when she has had weeks to see me. Even on valentines I think she wanted to see me but I didn't ask as I know she sees other guys. Even on her Birthday she invited me and then didn't even let me know. She always plays games and even this is unlikely to happen if I did agree to meet. I want to speak to her but she never answers her phone especially in these situations. Two days later I got a random txt saying. "Lets start a family. lets have kids!" WTF

Classic case of "oneitis." LOL.

You really have only two options: keep hope alive by continuing to pursue this chick (all the while giving into her games, being played with and put away later like a kid playing with a toy, etc.)

Or you can simply move on.

This subject has been covered hundreds of times on this forum, and the advice usually amounts to this: MOVE ON! THERE ARE OTHER GIRLS ON THIS SMALL BLUE PLANET, MANY WHO WONT PLAY GAMES WITH YOU, LEAD YOU ON, AND SHOW YOU A GENERAL LACK OF RESPECT LIKE THIS CHICK IS!

And guess what: women are not as different from men as most dating advice and magazine columns would have you believe. One common thread the sexes share is that when both are interested, they show it. There really shouldn't be a guessing game when it comes to attraction. If there is, then the person clearly doesn't have a strong level of interest in you....and in such a case...MOVE ON!

 

[Oddman]

There was some other chick who started giving me IOIs on my FB wall and I believe she saw this and it spiked interest. I'm pissed because who might of been interested in something but I will never know for sure.