Should I dump my girlfriend?

[captain55]

So guys Ive been dating this single mom for about three months. Normally I would never date a single mom but I think I've spent less than 10 bucks on the kid in three months. I rarely have to see or deal with the kid and she doesn't ask me to pay for anything for the kid so Im fine with it.

The relationship started out great. She used to brag to her friends about "this guy she met" and thought very highly of me. Used to treat me EXTREMELY well. What I have noticed is after the honeymoon phase she started to get less affectionate towards me. Started picking more fights with me and just became impossible to deal with.

I don't think there is someone else because her interest level still seems very high. I rarely call her or text her first she calls me everyday. hell She is planning on moving in with me....wants me to marry her...and is already looking at furniture for our place. Told me she wants to have a life with me etc.

I just find it weird how she used to love giving me head and now she never does it anymore. she told me that her ex used to complain about how she never wanted to have sex with him too. Is there a possibility my woman may not be a very sexual person? How does a girl go from getting wet every time she gives you a hug to not wanting to give you head or make out with you anymore in three months?

she's pretty hot and I believe she is loyal to me. but if you have to ask a chick to have sex with you does being loyal really mean jack ****? getting in a girls pants has never been a problem for me but Im afraid I won't be able to find a woman who loves me as much as I think she does.

how do I handle this? I don't want to walk out and then risk losing her but I want her to know Im not going to deal with this ****. I haven't talked to her in 24 hours and she's blowing up my phone and ****...

 

[mangotot]

Look for a substitute when suitable one arrives dump.

 

[asa_don]

do you always have other people make decisions for you?

alpha men make decisions, they don't let other men sway their mind or allow other men to decide for them.

if you don't like what you're getting from her, then dump her, that's your decision to make, we can't make that for you.

3 months is nothing, when she stops sucking your d!ck or opening her legs, you dump. why would you hang around a chick who stops giving you head or her pvssy?

i'm sure this single mom ain't no prize, find someone better that will do what you want.

risk losing what? a single mom you had for only 3 months that's not putting out? :crackup:

if you have no problem getting chicks, get another, i think you do have a problem getting chicks, you are dating a single mom afraid to let her go.

no head + no pvssy = dump

 

[mangotot]

Leave as soon as a better option comes along.

 

[Thorninmyside]

Sounds like mommy doesn't feel like she has to work to get you anymore. That's probably on you a little. If she wasn't feeling so settled she might be more keen to please. If you're moving in with her so soon, you've told her you're easy to get IMO. What incentive does she have to suck you off now?

 

[captain55]

Sounds like mommy doesn't feel like she has to work to get you anymore. That's probably on you a little. If she wasn't feeling so settled she might be more keen to please. If you're moving in with her so soon, you've told her you're easy to get IMO. What incentive does she have to suck you off now?

at first i was considering the possibility she might be talking to another guy because she has so many friends on social media and so many guys trying to get at her but the thing is she never has any issues with letting me hold her cell phone...and she constantly posts pictures of me with her on social media kissing her etc. The relationship is no secret.

I never once told her about moving in with her, or getting married, or having kids with her. she's brought up (and nags me) about all these things. I haven't agreed to any of these things yet so how could she feel so settled? Ive only spent one weekend with her child and that was this weekend...and Ive only spent 7 bucks on her kid in the entire three months we have been dating. Im also very aloof with her and have told her "go **** yourself" a couple times here and there. Id tell you if i was bro but I really don't think Ive been too easy....maybe I did everything right and was doomed from the start perhaps.

 

[Albatross953]

About three months? So less than three months?

You think about that.

 

[Thorninmyside]

at first i was considering the possibility she might be talking to another guy because she has so many friends on social media and so many guys trying to get at her but the thing is she never has any issues with letting me hold her cell phone...and she constantly posts pictures of me with her on social media kissing her etc. The relationship is no secret.

I never once told her about moving in with her, or getting married, or having kids with her. she's brought up (and nags me) about all these things. I haven't agreed to any of these things yet so how could she feel so settled? Ive only spent one weekend with her child and that was this weekend...and Ive only spent 7 bucks on her kid in the entire three months we have been dating. Im also very aloof with her and have told her "go **** yourself" a couple times here and there. Id tell you if i was bro but I really don't think Ive been too easy....maybe I did everything right and was doomed from the start perhaps.

There's totally a chance you played it all fine, but I guess the end result is still that this lady wants to write your story from here, and it's a story where the honeymoon sex dries up well before its time. Sex is the glue of any good relationship and if she's giving you less than you deserve now well, the best indicator of future trends is the current trend. I've never seen a fantastic single mom story here yet, besides a good ole fashioned pump and dump.

 

[captain55]

About three months? So less than three months?

You think about that.

Not even. I think 10 weeks or something we've been "official"

 

[Harry Wilmington]

Be more specific: when you say she was "starting more fights," what were the fights about?

 

[jurry]

You sound very weak. If you're fighting and begging for sex after 10 weeks you need to bail brother.. She is slowly but surely destroying your willpower and manhood because she knows you are scared to lose her. The manipulation will only intensify from here.

Don't be weak, you dont need her. Theres millions more out there.

 

[nyc123]

usually sexual interest in a specific individual declines after the first few times. a lot of sexual attraction is novelty. this may be part of it.

since its unclear why she's not sexual with you anymore, i don't really know what advice to give you.

but i will say this- be wary about moving in with her. its a lot of work to do and undo. it's a huge lifestyle change. make sure this is what you want before you do it or else it will turn out very bad. and it sounds like you're hesitant about it right now.

 

[Between_The_Lines]

The problem with playing the waiting game is that it's probably going to be on your mind at all times ("will this ever get better? maybe if I give it just a few more weeks...no, months...") . Eventually, you're going to start feeling emasculated (if you don't already), resentment will build up, and it will become increasingly more and more difficult to even have a normal conversation with her without leaking your (sexual) frustration. Just bail man. Been there before, and it's not worth the headache.

 

[captain55]

You sound very weak. If you're fighting and begging for sex after 10 weeks you need to bail brother.. She is slowly but surely destroying your willpower and manhood because she knows you are scared to lose her. The manipulation will only intensify from here.

Don't be weak, you dont need her. Theres millions more out there.

she called me 9 times this morning and sent me a ****load of text messages because i haven't talked to her since the trip. On the 9th call and after a ****load of text messages I picked up and told her Ill call her later tonight because i had a lot on my mind. she said "is it regarding our relationship?" and i told her the truth.


she calls me back and begs " please don't hang up. your making me sick to my stomach I've had my knots in my stomach all morning please talk to me etc etc please don't do this to me."

I explained to her that I couldn't deal with it anymore. she's like "so you go and have sex with me yesterday like nothing is wrong and wait till now to tell me?" She told me that she likes having sex with me its just that she's self conscious about her body right now. (she's put on 10 pounds since we've started dating). She's now being SUPER nice to me...posting **** all over her Facebook about me etcetc.

 

[latinnova]

=captain55She's now being SUPER nice to me...posting **** all over her Facebook about me etcetc.

Sorry to break it to you man, that don't mean jack sh!t. My ex wife used to post that stuff on facebook all the time about how I was the best husband that anyone could ever have. I mean for years, and even right before she left me after she found some other guy to share her life with, she was posting how wonderful everything was. Everyone was astonished when I said we were divorced, because she posted about how great our relationship was all the time.

Listen, you're already hesitating enough to ask for advice here. I definitely would not move in with a chick after only 10 weeks. I would just stay at your place, and if you really want to, pursue her and see how it goes from there. If there is more and more drama let it go and find someone else. Is that really worth your time, are you enjoying the drama?

One thing that I am now enjoying in my life is no drama, it is amazing how uplifting it is for your soul, not dealing with the b.s. any longer.

 

[Between_The_Lines]

Sorry to break it to you man, that don't mean jack sh!t. My ex wife used to post that stuff on facebook all the time about how I was the best husband that anyone could ever have. I mean for years, and even right before she left me after she found some other guy to share her life with, she was posting how wonderful everything was. Everyone was astonished when I said we were divorced, because she posted about how great our relationship was all the time.

I went through this too. "Look! I made it Facebook official!" and "let's take a pic together and put it on Instagram - I haven't done that in so long!" and "what a amazing bf I have! So lucky to have him!" blah blah blah, and the chick left me. I find that what a girl advertises on social media probably falls somewhere in that grey area between what she says and what she does, but much closer to what she says, if that makes any sense, meaning ...it doesn't hold as much weight as you'd think. It's just another way for them to get validation, mess with orbiters, seek approval from friends etc.

 

[VladPatton]

Hit The Nuke Button!

If this thread doesn't scare the living sh!t out of any of you that are thinking about hooking up with a single mom, then you're dead from the neck up. This is basically a super high speed version of what these girls do to you... the new provider. Why the fvck do you think they're single moms in the first place? Because they're great catches?

Captain55, consider yourself one lucky mofo! Yep, lucky. You got a fantastical glimpse into your future. Don't like it? Pull the red chord and stop this train wreck from happening. Be not afraid. Tell her "I'm sorry, I cannot do this, this has to end, now, I wish you all the best". And go live a happy life, man. You owe nothing to her. I know that sounds frigid, but she cannot expect to snag some dude and transform him into her personal meat puppet. It goes against everything "red pill". Trust your gut, this is a sh!t storm and you don't even have an umbrella. Good luck, man. Keep us posted as to how it went.

 

[captain55]

Furthermore..............what was her excuse with her ex?

He complained that she never wanted sex either - she admitted that.

She told me that she stayed with the ex because she felt comfortable being in the relationship even though she was not happy and felt like she was settling. And didn't really enjoy having sex with him. She hired a baby sitter for the kid this weekend to come over to my place ...so we'll see what happens saturday night. Maybe she'll change her attitude in the sack a bit but then again 5 days is a long time away lol.

 

[captain55]

Sorry to break it to you man, that don't mean jack sh!t. My ex wife used to post that stuff on facebook all the time about how I was the best husband that anyone could ever have. I mean for years, and even right before she left me after she found some other guy to share her life with, she was posting how wonderful everything was. Everyone was astonished when I said we were divorced, because she posted about how great our relationship was all the time.

Listen, you're already hesitating enough to ask for advice here. I definitely would not move in with a chick after only 10 weeks. I would just stay at your place, and if you really want to, pursue her and see how it goes from there. If there is more and more drama let it go and find someone else. Is that really worth your time, are you enjoying the drama?

One thing that I am now enjoying in my life is no drama, it is amazing how uplifting it is for your soul, not dealing with the b.s. any longer.

Yeah I hear you. I will say part of the reason I am still with her is because there were numerous times in the relationship where I felt she was being shady and I was going to dump her ass.. I don't trust women easily...every time I thought she was being shady... I did a little investigating, she always turned out to be telling the truth whether it was about where she was that night or her past etc etc.

Ive yet to catch her in a lie with me. finally after the 5th time Im like ok maybe Ill give this one a chance.

 

[latinnova]

Yeah I hear you. I will say part of the reason I am still with her is because there were numerous times in the relationship where I felt she was being shady and I was going to dump her ass.. I don't trust women easily...every time I thought she was being shady... I did a little investigating, she always turned out to be telling the truth whether it was about where she was that night or her past etc etc.

Ive yet to catch her in a lie with me. finally after the 5th time Im like ok maybe Ill give this one a chance.

I understand man. Tread very carefully with this one and listen to all the advice you have been given, they are not trying to rip you away from your love, matter of fact they are trying to save you. Do not forget there are literally thousands upon thousands of females in your particular area that are available for the taking. The one thing I have decided is that I do not need drama in my life, and if a beesh starts to give me some drama that tends to just linger and never go away, then she is going away along with the drama. I do not have time for that. Decide what you want in life and go for it.