Should i dump her ?

[Sir_Laid_A_Lot]

I have very high standards when it comes to behaviour and women.

A few days ago i introduced her to my friends and while we were leaving she took a second glance at one of my friends. After that i stopped replying to her text. She called me back to ask me why i didn't reply and i told her i need time to think about the relationship. Should i dump her ?

 

[adam225]

Lol, you need to make this judgement yourself. We don't know the ins and outs if this situation.

If it was me - I'd just watch her behaviour closely and go from there. At the end of the day she either wants you or she doesn't.

 

[Sir_Laid_A_Lot]

It's almost been a year together. She hasen't done anything conspicuous so far.

 

[Sir_Laid_A_Lot]

She's been talking about me meeting her parents for a while now. She also told me that one day she would like to get married with me and have kids.

 

[adam225]

She seems ok to me. You need to ask yourself - Am I happy with her ? If not, you know what to do...

 

[soulforge]

she sounds like an angel compared to my ex

 

[Sir_Laid_A_Lot]

she sounds like an angel compared to my ex

haha.

 

[Sir_Laid_A_Lot]

She seems ok to me. You need to ask yourself - Am I happy with her ? If not, you know what to do...

I am happy with her. But these things seem to bother me. I have absolutely little tolerance for such behaviour. I might be coming off too harsh it seems but it's so engrained into my subconscious mind that i act out towards my feelings.

 

[iamnobody]

A few days ago i introduced her to my friends and while we were leaving she took a second glance at one of my friends. After that i stopped replying to her text.

Your insecurities are running rampant. Improve your inner game but do pay attention to her behavior.

 

[Sir_Laid_A_Lot]

Doesn't sound that bad but go on Yellow alert just to be safe

Thanks. I will keep an eye out.

 

[Sir_Laid_A_Lot]

Your insecurities are running rampant. Improve your inner game but do pay attention to her behavior.

Thanks for the tip. I do realize that i have a lot of insecurities and i need to accept that. I just don't show it on the outside, It's all bottled up inside of me. These things can really mess up your perspective on how you view situations and circumstances regarding women. I just need to improve that part of my inner game.

 

[foreverAFC]

whatever, she looked at a guy, its not the end of the world, ask her to describe how bad she wants to get fcked by your friend while you are having sex with her

 

[cordoncordon]

So you are considering dumping a year long gf because she 'may' have glanced at one of your friends a second time? I really don't think the question should be should you dump her. I think the question is should she dump you for being an insecure, paranoid, controlling bf.

Cmon man. You have no idea in which context she 'glanced' at him. Maybe she thought she recognized him. Maybe she thought he was ugly. Maybe she thought he was gay. Maybe she thought he was cute. The point is...who knows, and who cares. If you are considering breaking up with her over this, I cannot imagine the state of any relationship you are in at any given time. Must be like living under the old Stalinist USSR when everyone thought everyone else was a spy.

Lighten up man. This is no way to go through life. And if it bothers you THAT much....why don't you just ask her about it?

 

[Sir_Laid_A_Lot]

whatever, she looked at a guy, its not the end of the world, ask her to describe how bad she wants to get fcked by your friend while you are having sex with her

You are really positive. How do you become like that ?

 

[Sir_Laid_A_Lot]

So you are considering dumping a year long gf because she 'may' have glanced at one of your friends a second time? I really don't think the question should be should you dump her. I think the question is should she dump you for being an insecure, paranoid, controlling bf.

Cmon man. You have no idea in which context she 'glanced' at him. Maybe she thought she recognized him. Maybe she thought he was ugly. Maybe she thought he was gay. Maybe she thought he was cute. The point is...who knows, and who cares. If you are considering breaking up with her over this, I cannot imagine the state of any relationship you are in at any given time. Must be like living under the old Stalinist USSR when everyone thought everyone else was a spy.

Lighten up man. This is no way to go through life. And if it bothers you THAT much....why don't you just ask her about it?

Hi CordonCordon. I appreciate your well thought out answer. It could be a number of reasons like you said but i directly went into a negative state because of my insecurities. I think i might be a bit controlling, insecure and paranoid. However, she does not know these qualities about me and i want to keep it on the down low till i am centered and have a tight inner game. She sees me that way though, as someone who does not give a **** and who really is strong mentally and internally. I want to fake it till i make it. i don't want to ask her about it as that would reveal my insecurities and make me come off in a bad light. Let's keep it simple for now, just complicated for me. lol

 

[foreverAFC]

You are really positive. How do you become like that ?

im actually not a positive person at all, but i realize that other people also have desires and fantasies and will find other people attractive, and theres nothing wrong with talking about it

i used to be the type of guy who really worried and obsessed about a womans past, now i realize you can have way more fun with her by having her tell you how naughty she is and bringing out her inner slut