Should I dump her

[Dman101]

I'm in a situation now where I've been growing into a player but still have a little of the old me inside. I ****ed 6 different girls this year, and went on dates with a lot of others while trying to become a player.

So I met a girl in July and boned her the second time seeing her. She lives an hour away so I've only been able to see her once a week or so. While dating her, I was messing with 2 or 3 other girls, but they're gone now so its been mainly the one girl. She wanted to be my gf so I told her what she wanted to hear to keep her around, and still met new girls on the side.

Shes told me that I'm different than the other guys shes dated, basically shes kind of nice, but I can tell she has an edge to her and she likes bad boys and Im not quite bad yet. For a few months she was all in love with me telling me how great I am how amazing I am and all that. I saw her last 3 weeks ago and when I seen her we were good, but since then the texts have went from her saying Hi baby, hey sexy, I cant wait to be with you, to just Hi OK yes whats up, very bland. Also she has mentioned she wants more passion with the sex. I've done her anal a lot and raw, but she wants choking and ass smacking and just a lot more than I'm used to.

I stopped contact for a few days and she said she felt like she lost my attention. Then when I told her why I did it, she got mad and she seems worse now.

I was thinking about just dumping her, but she loves freaky sex and she made it seem like we had something really special and like I'm the man for her, but lately shes been acting a lot less interested and part of it is that I havent seen her in such a long time, so I dont know if I want to end it over bad texts or what. What do you guys think?

 

[Racecar]

First thing - becoming a Don Juan entails more than just maintaining relationships with several woman at a time. It is about self-improvement. It's about looking in the mirror and appreciating what's looking back at you. Try to develop the mindset of improving as a MAN and everything else will follow.

Everyone loves a freak - I know I do. What you may want to consider doing is keeping her around for the sexual experience. This is a fine time to try new things. Break out of your sexual comfort zone! If she wants to be choked, choke her. Who knows? You might find you actually like some of those things, and that will make your sex life better.

As far as commitment, do what feels right. Trust your gut. I wouldn't try to go exclusive with her, especially since she's become distant.

One more word of advice: if you're physical with her and her alone for a long enough time, you might end up becoming attached. Unless you want to become attached, you'd be better off seeing multiple women at a time.

 

[Dman101]

Well shes very distant at this point and really not the same toward me. Most of this is taht I havent seen her in a long time, but its possible that she could be ****ing someone else.

I"m really more into learning about myself and growing as a man thats definately the focus. She thinks we're in a committed relationship, but I know shes a freak so I dont 100% trust that despite all the great things shes said about me, so I've been meeting and sleeping with other girls.

It has messed with my emotions that this woman could say shes in love with me and that I'm the man for her and talk about kids in the future, but now seem so distant. I've learned a lot from this situation, and would really liek to keep her around for the sex, but dont want to seem all needy liek baby I miss you and all that bull****, so I may just let her go. Just wanted to know if its worth trying to get it back even though I'm doing the player thing

 

[SgtSplacker]

I'm kinda getting the vibe the relationship doesnt quite fit what you want? It's nice she considers you all cool and stuff, but is she really what you want? sexually and all?

If it's not a fit and she lives all far and stuff cut it...

 

[DonGorgon]

no !! make he a F buddy.. always do that..