Should I delete my facebook?

[speed dawg]

Thinking seriously about this. I think it would be very liberating and will be something that I won't waste time on from now on. I'm kind of in a rut anyway, need to do something that keeps me up and about instead of at home looking at all my "friends" fake-ass posts. My wife has one anyway, that I could use to see how my family's doing.

And in the end, I don't see that many real, respected men on facebook. There are some, but by and large, many influential people don't. My goals are literally just to see what's going on with other people (and I feel I need to be concentrating on what's going on with me instead).

The only thing I'm worried about, is if it is sort of the 'wave' of the future. Seems alot of businesses are going to facebook.

Thoughts?

 

[joverby]

You could always just use some self restraint and not "waste your time" on it.

If anything it would be in your benefit to not have one in regards to businesses, as the only thing they could really use your profile for is to try to disqualify you based off of any bad things they might see.(Not saying they would see this on yours, just saying that's the only practicle use for it really)

 

[NorwegianDJ]

Disable it

 

[azanon]

Tried it for a while, and my 2 cents opinion is that it's more bad than good for both gaming and for business.

In a dog-eat-dog world, people like you to give them ammunition (information) to use against you. And, yeah, I don't think women are going to respect men on here as much as "independent" men that don't need it to help them in life, whether it is a perception or reality.

Every minute spent on facebook is exactly a minute you're not with a real woman in person.

 

[ARrocket]

You could always just use some self restraint and not "waste your time" on it.

YES.

I hate these debates about whether or not Facebook should be deleted (because of all sorts of reasons) but it all comes down to self-control.

It's like candy. Or video games. Or masturbation. Or McDonald's.

It's enjoyable. And in very small amounts, it's harmless. Go on, check your notifications, comment on a funny status, like a cool photo, then get off and get on with your life. Repeat the next day (or in 3 hours, or 3 weeks, whatever suits you). And don't post stuff that's gonna come back and bite you in the ass. Simple as that.

 

[speed dawg]

joverby and ARrocket: Your advice is heard and it's a big reason why I'm thinking of not deleting it.

But my main point is wondering if there's any use to it at all to BETTER my life. I honestly think that I should NOT be just logging in to see what others are doing, I should be enjoying what I'M doing.

But then again, in this day and age when family and friends are spread out all over creation, it's an easy way to keep up with people. But then again, everybody I actually want to keep up with, I do it by telephone or some other form of direct contact.

And like the other guys said, you can't really control what OTHERS post on your wall.

 

[Vice]

I haven't had one in almost a year, and my life hasn't changed at all.

I would find myself secretly harboring negative thoughts when I checked out someone's profile, both jealousy and "what a loser that guy is" thoughts. It wasn't good for me personally, plus I would stalk girl's profiles and feel bad when they posted they were doing cool stuff without me.

It's my own insecurities at play, but not having one hasn't been detrimental. If anything, I have way more time on my hands, especially since I stopped playing video games. I've filled the time gaps with surfing, martial arts, and going out. I'm not going to be in my 20's forever, I don't want to spend a large part of my life on a computer at a time of my life where I am at my physical peak.

Plus I know that girls browse guys on FaceBook, and I'd rather have some mystery to me. They'll be curious to fill in the blanks of my life as opposed to projectile vomiting everything I like onto one simple, quick and easy to read page. Predictability is boring.

Sure, I can use it to keep in contact with my friends. But I don't really care about their vacation photos. I just call my friends to see what is going on. Most of my old facebook relationships were superficial and never really got anywhere.

 

[joverby]

I'm with vice on it affecting my security/insecurity...Especially with my very recent Ex and all the AFC's / oribiters all over her sh1t constantly.

But ultimately , it's up to you. I don't decide what I do SOLEY on how it will benefit my life. Not saying that this is a bad mentality to have. I just do things becasue I enjoy them. But I agree even with that, moderation is key.

But I wouldn't not have fun because it won't directly benefit my life. Eg. Going to six flags, or a concert, playing video games etc.

 

[Vice]

I'm with vice on it affecting my security/insecurity...Especially with my very recent Ex and all the AFC's / oribiters all over her sh1t constantly.

But ultimately , it's up to you. I don't decide what I do SOLEY on how it will benefit my life. Not saying that this is a bad mentality to have. I just do things becasue I enjoy them. But I agree even with that, moderation is key.

But I wouldn't not have fun because it won't directly benefit my life. Eg. Going to six flags, or a concert, playing video games etc.

Yeah, if you look at my earlier posts I was an anti-Facebook nazi. But in my opinion, if there's more negatives to having one than positives, get rid of it for a while. The blocked it on my computer with parental software a few months ago, and it's gotten to the point where I can take it off and not worry about going on there, especially since the default security settings won't let you browse people's profiles without being their friend.

I got rid of it because it wasn't serving me and my needs. It's more of my issue that I'm dealing with; the next guy may not have similar ones.

 

[FairShake]

Short answer: No.

Long answer: Do not do something because you want to seem "respected." You're playing a role that way. If you enjoy it and get something out of it then it has value and should be kept.

I think it's much harder to decrease the use of something rather than kill it off cold turkey. In the end you will tap your willpower more that way.