Meisterman
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So there's a chick I met a few weeks ago and we've banged a few times. She lives right by me in an apartment on campus which is how we met. Anyways I haven't seen her in a little over a week. Last Saturday she got sick and had to go to the doctor (she's fine now) and took a couple days to recover.
Then on Tuesday she texted me "hey what's up?" and I replied on Wednesday because I didn't feel like doing anything that night. She asked if I wanted to hang out, I said sure but I'm not home at the moment so how bout a couple hours? And she says she's too tired and wants to sleep but that I should definitely hit her up tomorrow. So tomorrow comes, which is now Thursday, and I hit her up lateish like 11 (but almost every time we've chilled has been after midnight so it's not unusual) and she says she has some homework to finish so she's gonna pass on tonight, which is fine by me.
I don't text her Friday and then on Saturday she starts blowing up my phone "trick or treat?!" And "hey what are ya doin?" I reply "I'm at a friends right now. You?" She says she just got back from a road trip with her (girl) friend. And asks if I want to come to her place when I get back from my friends. I tell her "Yeah sure will you still be up in 2 hours?" (This was at like 9 pm when I texted her this) and she says "hell yea
".
So my friend lives almost an hour away (she doesn't know this) and I'm getting ready to head back to campus to see her. Then I sh!t you not, when I'm 5 minutes away from my apartment she texts me "I think I'm coming down with a cold. Do you want to hang out some other night? " I was mad cuz I just spent 40 minutes driving there but I tried to keep my cool. So I just said "Oh that sucks. But um yeah alright." Then she apologized and asked what I was doing and I just told her "Driving back" and that was it.
My question is how should I react when a girl will text you asking to hang out and then flake like this? It's almost like she's testing the waters by asking me to see her, getting my approval, and then canceling. Mind you I do believe her excuses are legitimate. I know she was sleeping when she said she was cuz her apartment room light was off which is right next door to mine, and also she got sick just a week earlier so it's believable that she got a cold after being outside all day in sub 40 degree weather. And she DOES text me more than I text her, initiating conversation 75% of the time. I haven't always been available but the last couple times I have and she sorta flaked and cancelled.
I'm pretty positive she will hit me up soon, and I'm fairly confident that sex is a given as well. Should I just go along with it and accept her invitation next time to hang out? Or should I keep a cool distance to increase her interest level and show her I won't always be available. Part of me just wants to forget it and go to her place and sex her, and the other part thinks that's too beta and maybe I should play a little harder to get and ignore the next time she asks to chill or reply a day later etc.? . I don't want to give off the impression that I can just be walked over or that I'll never walk away at the drop of a hat, or that I'm just waiting for her to call. Mind you I do want to see this girl in the future (although I don't need to. I'd be fine without her), I'm just wondering what a true DJ would do in this situation.
So what is the dominant thing to do in this situation? Not care about her flaking the last couple times and still just try to initiate sex like nothing happened? Or show her that it was disrespectful by keeping a cool distance (but still being polite) and playing a little harder to get, make her work for it in order to make her think I might be moving on and don't care as much anymore?
Then on Tuesday she texted me "hey what's up?" and I replied on Wednesday because I didn't feel like doing anything that night. She asked if I wanted to hang out, I said sure but I'm not home at the moment so how bout a couple hours? And she says she's too tired and wants to sleep but that I should definitely hit her up tomorrow. So tomorrow comes, which is now Thursday, and I hit her up lateish like 11 (but almost every time we've chilled has been after midnight so it's not unusual) and she says she has some homework to finish so she's gonna pass on tonight, which is fine by me.
I don't text her Friday and then on Saturday she starts blowing up my phone "trick or treat?!" And "hey what are ya doin?" I reply "I'm at a friends right now. You?" She says she just got back from a road trip with her (girl) friend. And asks if I want to come to her place when I get back from my friends. I tell her "Yeah sure will you still be up in 2 hours?" (This was at like 9 pm when I texted her this) and she says "hell yea
". So my friend lives almost an hour away (she doesn't know this) and I'm getting ready to head back to campus to see her. Then I sh!t you not, when I'm 5 minutes away from my apartment she texts me "I think I'm coming down with a cold. Do you want to hang out some other night?
" I was mad cuz I just spent 40 minutes driving there but I tried to keep my cool. So I just said "Oh that sucks. But um yeah alright." Then she apologized and asked what I was doing and I just told her "Driving back" and that was it.My question is how should I react when a girl will text you asking to hang out and then flake like this? It's almost like she's testing the waters by asking me to see her, getting my approval, and then canceling. Mind you I do believe her excuses are legitimate. I know she was sleeping when she said she was cuz her apartment room light was off which is right next door to mine, and also she got sick just a week earlier so it's believable that she got a cold after being outside all day in sub 40 degree weather. And she DOES text me more than I text her, initiating conversation 75% of the time. I haven't always been available but the last couple times I have and she sorta flaked and cancelled.
I'm pretty positive she will hit me up soon, and I'm fairly confident that sex is a given as well. Should I just go along with it and accept her invitation next time to hang out? Or should I keep a cool distance to increase her interest level and show her I won't always be available. Part of me just wants to forget it and go to her place and sex her, and the other part thinks that's too beta and maybe I should play a little harder to get and ignore the next time she asks to chill or reply a day later etc.? . I don't want to give off the impression that I can just be walked over or that I'll never walk away at the drop of a hat, or that I'm just waiting for her to call. Mind you I do want to see this girl in the future (although I don't need to. I'd be fine without her), I'm just wondering what a true DJ would do in this situation.
So what is the dominant thing to do in this situation? Not care about her flaking the last couple times and still just try to initiate sex like nothing happened? Or show her that it was disrespectful by keeping a cool distance (but still being polite) and playing a little harder to get, make her work for it in order to make her think I might be moving on and don't care as much anymore?
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