"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I hate having to ask this kind of question because I'm sure it has been asked to death. Any way I met a girl yesterday at the Warrior Dash and exchanged numbers. She actually asked for mine which was great. We had good convo and in the process found she works right across the street from me. I mentioned meeting up for lunch on Tuesday and she sounded up for it. But I've since had an idea to do drinks or something after work on Monday instead. We haven't txted or anything since parting ways yesterday afternoon. Do I keep the previous plans and just confirm by Txt or phone call tomorrow or go for the change of plans and try getting a hold of her today? Or is it just too soon in general?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I'd stick to the original plan and organise to meet for drinks while you're having lunch. Keep lunch short, sharp and funny.
Then say: "Hey, I've gotta get back to work early but have you heard of this great bar? I was thinking of hitting it after work sometime this week. I think you should come too so you can buy me that drink you owe me."
She'll say something like: "What? I don't owe you a drink!"

Then you have a laugh and give her a time to meet up and leave straight away.
 
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Sorry about that, it happens. For future reference, it's fine to "upgrade" a date but never set the date sooner than previously set unless it's an absolute necessity. It makes you look desperate.

For example you can go from lunch to drinks later that evening but not the previous evening.

And BTW lunch dates suck.
 
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^^^^. Yes, lunch dates are for friends.
Night dates open up a lot more chances to escalate.
Live and learn, my friend.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Yeah after I suggested it I realized it was a bit lame which is why I wanted to change it. It kinda just popped out when she said she worked right across the street from me. Better luck next time, live and learn and all that jazz.

Thanks for the insight though, it is much appreciated.
 
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