"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Should I care?

BxPrince24

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This girl that I've been talking to for like I week now, we finally met yesterday for the first time. I'm 20, she's 17. She had me meet her at the library close to her house because her father was complaining about her not being home. Anywho, the day pretty much went great, we joked around a lot and ended up kissing a lot.

Now the thing is, that I think that she might be seeing someone else. But until we've been officially declared as exclusive, I shouldn't care if she is or not right? I know she's into me, because she calls me everyday, more than once during the day, talks about us doing things together; fun and sexual, etc... But the reason for my suspicion is because, like yesterday i asked her what she's doing today and she was about to tell me something then she stopped herself and said, nope can't tell you that, and proceeded to tell me whatever she had pllaned.

Either way, at this point, should I give a damn if she's messing with other guys or not? I'm thinking no, and just enjoy the ride even if we don't end up being exclusive.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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BxPrince24

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PhilippeUrielAmancio said:
If you have to ask, you care.
I'm not asking whether I care or not, I know that it's on my mind for various reasons. What I am asking though is should I? Should I slip it under the rug and not give a damn.
 

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I think you'll have to slip it under the rug to keep your sanity.

Just have fun with her and go along for the ride and see where it takes ya.
 

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I think if you two aren't exclusive, then you shouldn't care.

In fact, you should be seeing other women as well. Always have a backup girl.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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BxPrince24

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MrMike said:
I think if you two aren't exclusive, then you shouldn't care.

In fact, you should be seeing other women as well. Always have a backup girl.
That's what I was thinking aswell. I wish I could find a backup. I got to speaking with this girl through a friend, there's not much to work with in my neighborhood, I most likely just need to get out more.
 
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