Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Should I call or not??

jalapeno

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Hey DJs, I know this is long but I would appreciate if you can read it and give me any advice as I am a newbie (just read the bible).

Basically about a month ago I met this HB 8.5 in a club. She worked there, not bar staff, but one of those girls who go around collecting emails, names etc. She was checking me out then she approached me. She was very direct that she liked me, we chat some BS for a few mins then she was like I’m at work so I cant hang out now but I like you and if you haven’t got a gf give me a call. Then she gave me her number. I was shocked that such a hot girl would put herself out there like that, and she didn’t even touch any alcohol the whole night. For next few hours while she was working she’d come by me, we’d chat few mins here and there, lots of kino. She finished her shift early then found me and took me to the vip (obviously cuz she worked there she can get in). We were there for almost 2hrs chatting getting to know each other, then we made out. Got on well. Pretty much soon after that I left and she was like give me a call.

2 days later I call her she picks up, kept chat brief and arranged to meet her on Thursday. Initially I suggest cinema but she was like I have no money (she is a girl who expects to go Dutch). This took me aback but I was like that’s fine we can hook up on Thursday and do something else. Wednesday night I text her telling her where and when (in hindsight I should have called). She didn’t text back, so a few hours later I called, just rang with no response (her phone doesn’t go to voicemail). Didn’t call her on Thursday, then on Friday I called, no response so I left a txt saying ‘had a good time last week, and maybe I’ll see you around some time’ (again I shouldn’t have done this). No response…..so I nexted her!!

4 weeks later and I was invited to a birthday at the same club she worked at. Went to the club, she was there, and as soon as she saw me she was like heyyyyy and all excited. Took me by surprise cuz I kinda expected her to be all awkward. Well anyway I acted all cool, trying to be unfazed that she blanked me. She was apologetic that she did blank me, she came up with some BS that she was so busy with work and had no credit in her phone for over a month (when I met her she told me she has 3 jobs and that she was pretty much skint, but that is no excuse…..how much does one phone call cost!!!). She was like I got time now to go out cuz I quit a few of my jobs so Im not as busy, and then she was like I promise I wont blank your calls again. Didn’t spend that much time with her that night as she was with her friends and me with mine, but she did come out her way to find me to talk at certain points.

Not sure what to do. Thing is after the first night I met her I really saw her as LTR material, but think I could be getting played. I’m pretty fussy with girls and am not really after one night stand type things. I’ve met a few girls over past month, but I just keep thinking about her, which isn’t good. I think I should give her one last chance and call her, if she blanks me this time, delete the number and move on. What do you lot think, also how long should I leave it if I do call her. I’m thinking give it around 10-14 days. Also can anyone explain her strange behaviour, from being all over me to blanking me??

Any help appreciated!!!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I think the pretty obvious thing here is not to call her. It does seem like she was playing you.

However, I suspect that if she did like you, then she will call you. Make her pursue you a little if this does happen, bang her and forget about her.

I also think that you should have took her home on the night you met her. It is fairly clear thats what she was looking for - a one night stand. And no, girls don't have to be drunk to do that.

And the cinema? Please. Bad idea.



"Thing is after the first night I met her I really saw her as LTR material"

Dangerous attitude - thinking LTR when you've just met a girl is bound to (a) give you oneitis and (b) make you act like an AFC.
 

jalapeno

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Yeh thanx for the advice. Deep down I knew I shouldn't call her again, its just the AFC in me trying to salvage something. I think your right, I should just next her now, if she calls she calls, but I'm done on my part.

Just ******* annoying that I blew a good opportunity, where I was the one with the power and she had high interest. Just gonna notch it down as experience and learn from it next time so I dont make the same mistakes again.

So ****** off that I messed up, oh well thats life, live and learn!!
 
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