Alright so i was recently dating this girl and we hit it off good and all... we had dated for about a month or two. But slowly we were like drifting away.. We didn't talk for about a week, and i was told she started talking with this other guy who btw is a real AFC!.. On myspace all of his comments to her are like i love you and i miss you and do you like me and all this pssy stuff, they even fake planned their own wedding already.. I'm jus wondering how the hell did she go for that guy instead of sticking with me.. According to what i've heard she said i was too ****y.. but it's wierd cuz i always had her laughing and whatnot.. So my question is should i call and try to sweet talk her into continuing with me or just be like if it's not even bothering me at all... I read the "how to get revenge" post on don juan tips and that was pretty inspiring to make it seem like if it was a good thing i'm not with her anymore so i can continue with my life... Hmm now that i think about it, i think i shouldn't even bother at all... but i dont know.. so wuts your alls take on this, what do you think i should do???
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Should I call or move on?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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I would let it go. Trying to get a girl back is rarely worth it and is usually an exercise in futility. Your time is better spent finding new girls.
She is playing the field right now and could care less about you longing for her so you should do the same.
Start dating other chicks and forget about her.
If she wants to come back then let her attempt to make the effort (not you) but don't stop dating other chicks.
Start dating other chicks and forget about her.
If she wants to come back then let her attempt to make the effort (not you) but don't stop dating other chicks.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
yea ok.. i'm gonna try to hook up with this other girl... i dont know if she has a bf but i'm still gonna try to get the number then move on from there...
what exactly do you mean by staying indifference?.. Oh and if she does call/txt me how do you suppose i react/respond to this?
Staying indifferent basically means you don't care whether or not she calls you, talks to you, or anything like that. Just be kinda whatever to anything she says or does. Anything she says or does doesn't affect you.