"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Should i call or email?

rob1234

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I have been on a speeddate event and got a couple of telefphone numbers ( we both filled in "yes").

There is one particular girl i liked to date another time, its been 6 days ago, should i email her or should i call her? i am afraid that other guys already contacted her.

plz advice
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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call her, now!
 

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The fact is, other guys have already called her. He who hesitates, masturbates.
 

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Never ever mail a chick, just fvcking call her. You got a number, use it! In fact, if a girl only gives me her mail address, I just throw it away, because it means she's not interested.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I think you're right Gangster of love.... i called her .. and see didn't answer the phone... i think see 's on a date with another guy this fridaynight.. well another lesson learned..
 

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rob1234 said:
I think you're right Gangster of love.... i called her .. and see didn't answer the phone... i think see 's on a date with another guy this fridaynight.. well another lesson learned..
Nah dude. The truth is, ALL women screen their calls, MOST of the time. Even if she was home wondering, "When is rob1234 gonna call me?" she still would most likely screen the call. What she does after or how long it takes her to get back at you will tell you how interested she is.

Just because she might or might not be on a date, doesn't dictate what kind of chance you have. Just remember, if she's attractive, she has options.
 

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OK i will call here tomorrow. but on the speed dating event we had a very good contact, when she spook with other guys she was looking at me, and she was constantly looking my way (even when i was talking to other girls). so i think my changes are good... she told me that we even had visit the same rockconcert.. so i think i've got another change with her
 

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end of story... didn't got contact, even emailed her.. but no response.. i think its to late...other guys were before me.... so this is a lesson.. never wait more then 4 days..otherwise you will be forgotten by the girl.... so for me it is..... next
 

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rob1234 said:
end of story... didn't got contact, even emailed her.. but no response.. i think its to late...other guys were before me.... so this is a lesson.. never wait more then 4 days..otherwise you will be forgotten by the girl.... so for me it is..... next
It has nothing to do with other guys. Most girls don't respond to initial contact after a speed dating event. They make the choice to pick you in the environment that is stimulating, then a few days later, when you get the contact info, interest is pretty much gone. Most other guys didn't get responses from her either.

Your best bet is to make such a unique, and lasting impression to where she cannot wait to meet up with you outside of the event. If you are not really standing out, you are blending with the rest, which have already been categorized, "not interested".
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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And again you're right Gangster...

The Girl texted that she had many "yes"matches, and was insecure about me and some off the other matched guys, and that she had to pick a couple. i have been flaked ...

p.s. shall i call here on here b*lls**t behaviour..? or just nxt
 

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Just let it go. This is a case beyond patching up, so why waste your energy on it? You're not going to get anything from it except humiliating yourself, which might fvck you over at a later moment in time.
 
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