"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Should I Call Her?

DaneB

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There is this girl I want to pursue. I got her number the fri before finals week and really had no time to hang out with her because I did nothing but study for finals. Whenever I saw her I was pretty much tired as hell and she was working at our eatery at the dorms. I didn't really feel like I got to talk with her as much as I wanted.

Anyway, this is how I got her number. Im not sure if it is kind of discounted, but I will let u guys know anyway. I danced with her before and played basketball against her. So I knew about her already. I approached her during a holiday reception at our dorms and talked with her some. I let her know that we were going to be playing on the same basketball team because my friend Josh told me. So I told her that I had to take off and that I would give her a call. She asked if I wanted her number. I told her that I could just get it from my friend and then was like "well on second thought..." I was trying to seem like I wasnt too excited. So she took my hand and wrote on it.

We didnt end up having practice because there was girls basketball team playing. I did talk to her a little bit on the phone though for a couple of minutes regarding practice and her finals week. We never really got to hang out beccause I had to study so hard.

Every time I see her I get big time vibes that she is interested. She seems to really lighten up, smile and seem happy to see me. Ive only had like maybe a couple of good conversations with her. My friend told me that I should call her and find out if she got home okay. I was kind of unsure if I should do that because it kind of seems AFC-ish. Do you guys think that I should even call her up at this point and talk with her? If so, how should I lead the convo?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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DaneB

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I actually met her at a dance class and I just randomly found out that she was a basketball player because I play all the time...
 

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dont ask that question around here, because the answer will always be YES!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
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