Should I call her now?

[Begin2Live]

I was in a relationship with a girl for 4 years it ended so I began to not contact her and start going out again. I went out for the first time since my breakup and the first girl I ask to dance we hit it off. We dance the whole night and end up kissing there...In a odd coincidence she was having a girls night out with her sis, mom and aunt. A concert they were going to canceled. She was a 9, 19 year old college, latin girl (no kids which is hard to find in that town) and even kissed me right in front of her mother-- which seemed very akward given their "very" latin culture. Stuff like this usually doesnt happen especially when the mother knows her daughter just met a guy in front of her. Im unable to get her to my place but we do hangout for lunch the next day...More kissing and she inititiates this too. Also we both have similar careers. After I leave and come home (few hours away) I attempt to call her. I text her and she says she was busy on reports. I try a second time the next day and am unable to reach her. I text her I'm gonna move on and never hear from her again.

Now I have a sports car (before I had my beat up college car), have been working on myself and I'm wondering if I should call her to see what shes been up to? Honestly I felt that the club situation may have been a way to get some guy there jealous as it has never happened to me before. But the next day she was still kissing me passionatly. I'm working on being the man of my dreams just wondering if now that I got a new car and have been building my knowledge and taking risks if I should call her?

 

[Die Hard]

I acknowledge the fact that you've been working on yourself and I'm sure you've made progress...but the very fact that you think about contacting her again at this point, tells me you need to work on yourself more!

The girl flakes on you...you tell her you are going to move on, she doesn't even respond, and still you plan to contact her again? That's very weak, don't you agree?

Besides, if you're confident and think you've worked on yourself enough to make things work with her now, you should also be confident about picking up other girls who are just as good as she is. Or is it that you wanna focuss on this girl again because you already know that she showed interest in you earlier? (instead of trying other girls, where you still have to find out and win over their interest, so basically you're choosing the easy way out)

When a hot girl shows interest, it's quite natural to be kinda overwhelmed with happiness and focuss too much on her. But it's kinda AFC too! Remember, YOU are the prize, not she. If you were able to gain her interest, you'll be able to gain interest from other girls who are just as good as she is.

You did a good job! You picked her up, made out, had a follow up afterwards... Then she flaked on you. So bye-bye to her and onto the next girl! Don't let your thoughts "stick" with her, there is nothing special about her or about the fact that you picked her up. You can pick up lots of other great girls, you just don't fully realize this...

 

[Begin2Live]

Your right

Thanks Die Hard for your advice. Your right I am the prince and do have alot to offer. I'll keep working on myself and getting out there. And your right If I could get a hot girl as interested in me as quickly as her then I can get another if not even hotter. So I wont call her...My next post will be a success story

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

You're really excited about this new car, aren't you?

 

[PectoralisMajor]

rule 1 - never show off about materialistic items. its a turn off for men and women included.

and on that note i wont be comparing cars with you otherwise i would break rule 1.

 

[Begin2Live]

No I'm not showing off by any means...

Yes I am very excited about my "new car" but you have to understand this is the best thing I ever bought for myself. I went to college, worked hard, got a great career that will offer me more oportunities. Was in a LTR thinking on marriage and she fizzled. I still drive my other car to work...but this one I'm proud to help a lady in and I need to have more expierences with women before I plunge into marriage.

What I drive now that I can actually afford it lets woman know where I am at in life and is thus somewhat of a status symbol (that they actually look for and notice). I love driving it...I enjoy it and have worked hard for it.

I dont brag about it to anyone. Im young and wanna live it up instead of hoarding ALL my money for the future or for a wife. Its a two seater--looking for a woman not kids. I like what I drive if that offends anyone so be it. I am proud of where I am in life just need to continue on improving with the ladies.