should I call her back?

[smoovedude23]

So I met this chick recently, we hung out one time and she texted me the next day initiated a convo.

I texted her back and few times told her I had to go and I would call her tommorow.

So you know the next day I hit her up and she doesnt answer tells me the next day she texts me telling me she was asleep.

I jokingly tell her I like lady that returns my calls and she texts me back saying she likes my expectations and would call me the next day. So im like cool then she sends me another text and I end the conversation there by not texting her back.

So that was about two days ago and she hasnt called?

Should I call her or leave it alone?

lol I was planning on leaving it alone as I feel it is common courtesy to at least return someone phone call if you like them

 

[PlayHer Man]

Test her to find out if she is a game player or a straight shooter.

Send her a text saying: "Call me around 8 PM".

If she doesn't call and doesn't text back.. she is playing games or not interested. If she calls.. she probably likes you.

 

[smoovedude23]

so basically what your saying is she texts back then shes just playing games?

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

so basically what your saying is she texts back then shes just playing games?

Not true at all. You guys have to realize that with the lack of REAL social interaction these days, some girls are shy about a voice conversation. I had a girl I was talking to tell me so. She wanted to keep texting first until she got comfortable with me. We had a few dates and ended up in bed together.

So you have to take each case on its own. More details.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

so basically what your saying is she texts back then shes just playing games?

Dude, she's not playing games - she's just not that into you. Girls who like you remember to call/text when they say they're going to. They don't need to be prompted or reminded. Plus, she already had the chance to call you: you called her, and instead of calling you back she texts you to tell you she'll call you? She could've called you then! Why didn't she? 'Cause she's just not that into you.

Please, please, please, make the dating game easier on yourself by seeing these types of signals in black and white terms: if they like you, they'll call you back; if they don't, they won't. Pretty simple stuff. :rock:

 

[smoovedude23]

Dude, she's not playing games - she's just not that into you. Girls who like you remember to call/text when they say they're going to. They don't need to be prompted or reminded. Plus, she already had the chance to call you: you called her, and instead of calling you back she texts you to tell you she'll call you? She could've called you then! Why didn't she? 'Cause she's just not that into you.

Please, please, please, make the dating game easier on yourself by seeing these types of signals in black and white terms: if they like you, they'll call you back; if they don't, they won't. Pretty simple stuff. :rock:

I disagree the dating game is never black and white.... womens emotions are way to complex for it to be. Women will send mixed signals to create attraction sometimes, especially when they think a guy might be a player...

However I wont text her or call her again till I hear from her.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

I disagree the dating game is never black and white.... womens emotions are way to complex for it to be. Women will send mixed signals to create attraction sometimes, especially when they think a guy might be a player...

This, my dear friend, is what we call "a lie." It's something we men have forced ourselves to believe when we don't want to believe a girl has low interest in us.

A woman's emotional state is no more complex than a guy's emotional state is (as evident by the wide range of emotions guys on this board tend to show when dealing with women). For example, you may like a woman and see her go from hot to cold to hot on you and call it "complex." However, that's no different than a guy that goes "I want her" to "f--k her, I don't need her anymore so I'm dumping her" to "hey guys, I think I want her back." Different words, same emotions.

Anyway... the point is, guys use this whole "girl is emotional" excuse to prolong their chasing of a girl that's not interested. In the process, they forget that while a woman may have emotional up and down roller coasters, the one thing that WILL remain consistent if she likes you is her ability to continue showing said like by not doing things that would make you question her desire for you. It's not in their best interest to confuse a man they like because, as they like to say, "good men are hard to find." So, when they find one, they're not trying to let him go.

But hey, there's always a chance I could be wrong, so let's see how this plays out. My guess is, she'll either (a) never hit you up, or (b) hit you up at some random point in the future just to say "hey," which will give her the attention she's looking for and the false hope you're looking for, at which point you'll suggest another outing day (or - small chance - she'll suggest something) and then either stop texting you again or flake on the agreed upon date.

C'mon, though, man - 2 days and she hasn't hit u up? The phone works both ways, and she knows what she told you 'cause she texted it to you, which means it's documented and she can re-read it in her phone. She's purposefully not reaching out to you, and there's a reason for it - LOW interest.

 

[PlayHer Man]

I disagree the dating game is never black and white.... womens emotions are way to complex for it to be. Women will send mixed signals to create attraction sometimes, especially when they think a guy might be a player...

However I wont text her or call her again till I hear from her.

This is true... but as a man you should not allow women's emotional issues to become YOUR problem. In all other areas of life women are expected to act like responsible, mature adults if they want to function in the world. Dating should be no different.

If a woman is too immature, emotional or insecure to show manners and common courtesy... then she is only good for a "hump and dump" and should not be taken seriously. She is far too self-involved and childish to make a good girlfriend. Just jizz in her face and keep it moving.

 

[Kbomb]

So I met this chick recently, we hung out one time and she texted me the next day initiated a convo.

I texted her back and few times told her I had to go and I would call her tommorow.

So you know the next day I hit her up and she doesnt answer tells me the next day she texts me telling me she was asleep.

I jokingly tell her I like lady that returns my calls and she texts me back saying she likes my expectations and would call me the next day. So im like cool then she sends me another text and I end the conversation there by not texting her back.

So that was about two days ago and she hasnt called?

Should I call her or leave it alone?

lol I was planning on leaving it alone as I feel it is common courtesy to at least return someone phone call if you like them

Sounds like you didn't escalate physically when you met her and she is lumping you into the Friend Zone. She doesn't want to end up leading you on about anything because she can already tell you're desperate. Which is a major turn-off.

 

[Mr. Bond]

Haha reminds me of this.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jzp1XlHiJWA

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Dude, she's not playing games - she's just not that into you. Girls who like you remember to call/text when they say they're going to. They don't need to be prompted or reminded.

Bro your making yourself look bad with all this terrible blanket advice. Yes, girls who like you will remember to text/call you, dates etc.

However the reality is that so early in the courting phase no girl is going to be going out of her way for a guy they've just met or been on one date with.... its their version of game. Just like for us, where its fine to show interest, but you don't want to go over the top so early on.

Most girls rarely initiate PHONE CALLS this day in age because as much as you hate text, we live in a text-centric society. The young peeps of today are social retards, they don't really know how to hold a in person conversation, but give them a text screen and they can blab on for days.

Plus, she already had the chance to call you: you called her, and instead of calling you back she texts you to tell you she'll call you? She could've called you then! Why didn't she? 'Cause she's just not that into you.

LOL!! Go date a bunch of 19-23 year olds over the next couple months and you will change your mind.

Yes once the girl has high interest she will initiate text, calls etc etc. Again this takes a little bit of time for guys who have decent game.

Please, please, please, make the dating game easier on yourself by seeing these types of signals in black and white terms: if they like you, they'll call you back; if they don't, they won't. Pretty simple stuff. :rock:

If you give up on a girl who doesn't call you back once, your missing out on a lot of girls you could bang.

The problem here is the OP put the ball in the girl's court way too early, she's interested yes, but not completely sold yet. So she didn't call on purpose because she wants to see how he reacts. Does he go AFC and start chasing her? Does he sit back and wait for her to call?

OP, don't put the ball in a girl's court so early in the game, once you've banged her out a few times, she will call you without you even asking.







PIMP

 

[smoovedude23]

Sounds like you didn't escalate physically when you met her and she is lumping you into the Friend Zone. She doesn't want to end up leading you on about anything because she can already tell you're desperate. Which is a major turn-off.

Desperate? Remember she texted me first after we hung out and I had to cut the conversation short after a few texts told her I would hit her up the next day.

Said she was sleeping when I called, which was probably true given that she had to be up extra early for work the next day.

When she texted the next day I jokingly said I like a woman who returns my calls and she said she would call me the next day... and I didnt text her back after she sent me that last text...

If anything she herself may feel I'm playing games and may have low interest in her... Since I keep cutting our text convos so short

what is desperate about what I did?