"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Should I call again?

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I met a girl exactly one week ago at a bar on the river. She was sitting quietly by her friends. She caught my attention right off since she was so into the live music.

Luckily, the friends she was sitting beside happened to be people i know. I asked the friends once she left for the restroom who she was and come to find out she goes to my college and plays basketball and hurt her leg which is why she's on crutches.

Well long story short, she approached me and asked me if its true that I go to the same college as she does. We small talk about classes and athletics and parties for a while and she tells me that I should ride back on the boat with her and her friends to a cabin.

I fall prey to the diva's temptation and go back, of course only to be sleeping by myself once bed time arrived. But before we left that night she told me to call her when I get back to the college town so she gave me her number.

Well I called her two days ago. She didn't answer right off so I left her a message and she called back. She said she had summer school or whatever and that i should call her back tomorrow. So I called her and no answer. I didn't leave a message.

So the question is: Should I call her again and if so when?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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B-Real said:
So you don't think I should call her back?
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You've called her enough times for her to know you're interested in at least talking to her. If you call too much she'll start thinking you're 'weird', lay back, wait a couple days and if she doesn't call by then no big deal. You'll probably bump into her again soon since you guys have common friends. When you see her again you can bust her balls, in a ****y funny way about not returning your calls. Then you can better gauge her interest, in the meantime go out and meet other girls.
 
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when you call always leave a message. she could have had other phone calls and didnt see that you did. too many times guys assume she knows he called but girls talk on the phone ALOT and have a ton of their girly friends calling them.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Yeah your right Downtown, she knows I'm interested. I'll lay off for a while. Thinking about going out tonight so that should get my mind off her.
 
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Why didn't you at least make out with her at the cabin?
 
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Yeh i agree just take it Ezy man...

I find it if they don't call u for a while.. when they do contact u.. they say sorry blah blah.. n some story.. which totally makes no logical sense to you n irrelevant..

i'm like yeh ok.. haha

Gurls r a Mystery..




-SeS
 
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Well I found out last night that this girl doesn't even like white guys. That could probably be the main reason why she won't return my calls.

A friend of mine told me he seen her a party. I don't know how the subject even came up but he said that she told them "I don't **** white guys"

I guess its better I hear it from someone else rather than finding out the hard way.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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