"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Should I buy her diamonds or nothing at all?

jigga23

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Long story short. Some good advice would be great. Been with my GF for well over a year now. We generally split things overall. Anyways weve been living together for about 6 months now. We just disagree about the normal stuff. But lately she has been acting really weird. Like somewhat distant, selfish and bit*hy i think it becuase she stressed about money and school (shes a student) but I usually buy the food for us. Ive seen this before from her acting all distant but last time she was like this we broke up for like 2 weeks cause I handled it wrong and came at her. but eventually I just shut my mouth and things were fixed cause obvioulsy she came right after me when I was quite. Right now im trying to somewhat chill out and give her space but I dont want ot seem to do it a d*ckhead way.
So heres the question: Should I just give her space and start doing everything on my own? or should I buy her something really nice to cheer her up? I could afford some nice jewerly for her or would this just be a stupid move? I really didnt give her anythign special for christmas yet. I konw she cant cause she has no money.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Desdinova

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Ive seen this before from her acting all distant but last time she was like this we broke up for like 2 weeks cause I handled it wrong and came at her.
It's not what you do when she's acting distant, it's what you've done in the past that has lead her to act distant. And now you're looking for the quick fix.

should I buy her something really nice to cheer her up?
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I really didnt give her anythign special for christmas yet. I konw she cant cause she has no money.
Okay, you live together. You can buy her some 5hitty diamonds, but she can't afford to get you anything? Something's wrong here.
 

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Please...do you think diamonds will make her happy forever and ever.

Don't waste the money, get her something more meaningful and cheaper.
 

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Buying a woman gifts after a breakup is a classic AFC (Average frustrated chump) tactic that never works. The same goes for all the phone calls.

Just by reading your post I can tell you've never read the bible. Study and memorize it until you've internalized it and only then will you improve yourself.

If you want to turn this situation around there's only one way it can be done. If she's asking you for space then that's exactly what you should give her. Date other women and become unavailable around the holidays.
 

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Originally posted by jigga23
or should I buy her something really nice to cheer her up?
And how would you feel if she doesn't exactly cheer up after you've given her something really nice? Don't make gift giving so meaningless. If you want to do it, do it because you feel she deserves it and not because you want something specific to happen, i.e. the situation to get better.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Re: Re: Should I buy her diamonds or nothing at all?

Originally posted by JonJack
And how would you feel if she doesn't exactly cheer up after you've given her something really nice? Don't make gift giving so meaningless. If you want to do it, do it because you feel she deserves it and not because you want something specific to happen, i.e. the situation to get better.
very good point
 

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Buy her Diamonds!!!!!!

Diamonds for Gold...

I've read that somewhere in the Bible.
Men give women the Diamonds and women give men the Gold :-D

You should go out with her, do some adventure with her (Diamonds)

In essence, you can make everything an adventure even a shopping trip in the mall. Seduce her, build sexual tension. Let her know it is still fun being with you. Know that she will play too.

Look at your life as your very own movie with different genres in the play. Romantic Comedy, PG16, heavvy pr0n, Thriller, Adventure, Action, Documentary, Matrix Style :-D Whatever.

View yourself as the Director of the movie. Have confidence in playing the scenes yourself. Know your actions are cool (Filmed from a good position that is)

Have fun, be Crazy,

O.
 

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The gift won't make her happy. I'd say nothing at all.
 
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