should i break up with her??

[Three3Kingz]

ok so heres our background:

my girlfriend broke up with me the beginning of august because "we never had any deep conversations, we only small talk".

so about 3 weeks later she started calling me and texting me how much she missed me so after hanging out with her a little and giving it a lot of thought, i told her i still wanted to be with her.

so we got back together and we talked alot. i mean like almost every night for atleast a half hour and we still do. above all when we hang out we have an absolute blast. even just sitting around we have fun. we havnt had sex but shes a virgin so i dont expect it and i dont want to base our relationship over sex at all so i dont really care.

ok so over the last few days ive wanted to talk to her about our relationship. it seems like we are in the exact opposite position as when she broke up with me. i can remember when she called me to break up with me that she sounded really sad about it. now, i am the one that feels like we dont have any deep coversations, and i feel almost like i have to break up with her because i dont feel it anymore. i dont want to because i spent so much time and energy wanting to get back with her when she broke up with me. its wierd cuz we have a great time when we hang out like well play games and stuff and touch each other alot like playing pillow fights but we still dont really talk. i just want to tell her that if this relationship isnt gonna last a long time then i dont really want to stay in it because this girl is exactly the type of girl ive always wanted to have a long term relationship with.

so have any of you ever felt this way about your girlfriend, where u still have a blast together but it feel like u dont talk enough about each others feelings for it to feel like a real relationship??

 

[girl_in_a_boy_forum]

Building a deep connection takes time.

What you're feeling now--having a good time minus the "deep stuff"--I think is common in the beginning of most relationships.

For the first 3 months, my boyfriend and I were at that level. At month #4, things began to shift. At month #6, we had that deep bond, and after that it only continued to deepen.

It's a process and you can't force it. You seem to really like this girl; if that's the case, stay with her. Experience new things together, give it some time. If you don't have the patience for that, then don't. Hope that helped.

 

[Imohtep]

well since my school merged with another, ive had like 3 relationships start and end and each one lasted like a day...i guess we're all just trying to find that someone...but now im starting to go out with a girl who im partially friends with....we have our long long discussions on msn and all that, we hang out every day...and she finally realised she wanted to be with me....i actually think it was easier this way....but as the above said.....if you really want this girl, just stick it out because every relationship has to develop